Here’s Why Getting Rejected By A Guy Is The Best Thing That Could Happen To You

There’s no point in lying and saying that getting rejected by a guy you like doesn’t totally suck. It’s embarrassing, demoralizing, and just kinda sad. And yet, it can actually be the best possible thing to happen to you in love. Don’t believe me? Consider these things.

  1. It’s a huge push in the right direction. Instead of viewing rejection as failure, it’s really a way for the universe to push you in a better direction. So what if the guy doesn’t like you back? The message is clear – you should be heading for someone better or something else in life!
  2. It saves you time. You’ve probably wasted enough time on the wrong guys. Rejection that happens quickly is the best way to tell yourself to move on so you can save your energy for someone who actually deserves it.
  3. It’s a sign he’s not right for you. While you might feel depressed that the guy you really had a crush on isn’t into you, he’s not worth crying about. The fact that he doesn’t like you means he’s not right for you, so he’s doing you a favor by getting out of your life. You don’t need space hoarders!
  4. It toughens you up. Is there anything more powerful than being told you can’t do something? It really is powerful because it shows you what you’re made of. Are you going to hide under the duvet for the next three weeks or are you going to move on to greater heights?
  5. It makes you strong to be alone. You might hate the thought of being forever single, but rejection is there to teach you that you can go it alone. Heck, you won’t just go it alone but really enjoy it! Life gives you what you need and if you don’t have anyone in your life, it means you don’t need them. It’s really that simple.
  6. It makes rejection easier in the future. Rejection is something that gets easier with time. The more it happens, the more you brush it off your shoulders without letting it define you. So welcome it! It might hurt like hell the first time, but by the fifth time, you’ll hardly feel it.
  7. It opens you up to other opportunities. The relationship you wanted to have might not have happened, but by opening up more space in your life for other things and people, who knows what could happen? One day you’ll look back and say, “Thank goodness that guy wasn’t my boyfriend!” Maybe if he had been, you wouldn’t have had time to travel, learn a new language, make amazing friends, or build your empire.
  8. It might teach you about yourself. If you’ve been turned down by someone you liked because of something you did, then rejection is the perfect opportunity for you to learn about yourself and change so you become better to those around you. It’s a bitter pill to swallow, but it’s so valuable.
  9. It helps you figure out what you want. There’s nothing like rejection to make you stop and take stock. Ask yourself if you even wanted a guy like the one who rejected you, or if you want a relationship at all! Maybe things are not meant to go that way for now, and that’s okay. You’re needed elsewhere. See rejection as a big reset button that will help you get what you want.
  10. It makes you love yourself. Well, it should. While it’s easy to blame yourself or beat yourself up when rejection strikes, it’s actually an opportunity for you to give yourself self-love. Give yourself the love others can’t and you’ll be so much stronger and more empowered. It will also show you that you don’t need anyone to meet your needs.
  11. It shows you try! At some point, you’re going to get rejected if you put yourself out there. It’s a fact of life. But isn’t that better than never trying anything and never going for what you want? See rejection as a sign you’re aiming for growth in your life and doing what you want to do. Sooner or later, it’ll pay off. You know what they say: you regret the things you don’t do more than the things you do. Never let rejection make you stop – keep going and growing!
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.