Why A Guy Doesn’t Want To Make You His Girlfriend Even Though He Really Likes You

He likes you and you know it, but then why won’t he make things official by calling you his girlfriend? Here are 10 things that could be at play. Take the time to figure out what’s up with him so you don’t get played!

  1. He’s not into relationships. He loves hanging out, sure, and he’s always full of smiles when he’s in your company, but that’s enough for him. He doesn’t want to be tied down to a relationship right now. You can tell for sure by how he keeps insisting that he loves the way things are right now and he doesn’t want to change them.
  2. He likes dating apps too much. He likes having his dating options. He likes being single, living it up, and dating as many women as he likes instead of committing to one. Kudos if he actually tells you this so that you don’t have to worry about getting played and can walk away.
  3. He’s not 100% sure about you. Maybe he can see a future with you and he’d be keen to commit to you, but there’s just something that he doesn’t feel certain about. Maybe he thinks you guys aren’t as compatible as he wishes you were, or something else is holding him back.
  4. He’s already in a complicated situation. He likes you a lot and can’t help flirting with you whenever he sees you, but he’s got ties with another woman and he doesn’t want to end things with her. This is why he always backs off when you get too close. Sniff around for signs that he has a girlfriend already, like if he can’t take your calls at night or can never plan dates ahead of time, to confirm your suspicions.
  5. He’s commitment-phobic. Maybe he wants to take the step with you into relationship territory but he’s always too afraid to actually do it. He’s afraid of commitment? Ugh, haven’t you dealt with that enough in the dating game? You might think he’s talking BS but hey, at least now you know that he’s not the one for you, even if he does flirt up a storm with you and seem genuinely interested.
  6. He’s not sure if you like him back. He might want to take the next step and ask you out, but he could be hesitating because he doesn’t know if you like him. He doesn’t want to risk getting rejected. It might be a good idea to show him that you’re into him a little just to give him the green light.
  7. He doesn’t know what he wants. Sometimes this can be the real reason why he’s afraid to commit. His confusion can prevent him from making you his girlfriend even though he likes you. He isn’t sure what he’s looking for, and that’s why you’re stuck in dating purgatory. Give yourself a deadline so that you don’t wait around for him to make up his mind for too long. You’re a catch and he should know it or get out.
  8. He’s feeling the pressure. So maybe he really does see relationship potential with you but he’s feeling like he’s in a tight corner. Maybe you’ve been making him sweat with your talk of how much you want commitment from him, or you’ve given him an ultimatum and it’s freaking him out. It could be good to take a step back and let him figure out what he wants. That way, you’ll know that his feelings are real and he’s not just acting out of fear of losing you.
  9. He’s holding a candle for his ex. If he can’t seem to talk about his previous relationship or he seems nostalgic about his previous GF, maybe he’s still not over his ex. The best thing to do is back off for real and let him deal with his own baggage. You don’t need the drama in your life of a guy who’s not giving you his whole heart – or who might choose his ex over you.
  10. He doesn’t like you enough. He likes you? Yes, and he’ll tell you often. That’s great and all, but does he REALLY like you? You can’t help but think that if he really liked you, he’d make it clear by stepping up and asking you out on a real date. Just saying…
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.