Why It’s Okay To Be Sick Of Being Single

Netflix binges, take-out pizza, girls nights: these are all the things that we love about being single. But despite all the Taylor Swift songs that make you feel proud to be alone, there comes a point when you just don’t want to be by yourself all the time. And that’s okay. For all the talk of celebrating your single status, it’s totally cool to have relationship FOMO and decide that you’re ready to be part of a couple again. After all, I’m hopeful that there is someone out there for everyone and I believe that wanting to be someone’s other half doesn’t mean giving up who you are.

Here are 10 reasons it’s okay to be sick of being single and to want to be in a relationship, no matter what anyone says.

  1. You can always watch Netflix with your new BF. As a self-confessed TV addict, I don’t want to give up my Friends binges just because I’m dating someone. It’s amazing when you get to that place in a new relationship where you’re so comfortable with someone that you can lie on the couch and watch TV in your sweatpants. Just think of all the cozy nights in that await you and your new boyfriend.
  2. You don’t have to go on boring first dates anymore. Is there anything worse than sitting down at a bar and realizing you have nothing in common with the person sitting across from you? You’ve already ordered a drink and know you have to make awkward small talk for at least an hour. As someone who has gone on way too many bad first dates, I’m looking forward to the day when I can call someone my boyfriend and no longer have to deal with that awkwardness.
  3. You can delete your Tinder (or OKCupid) account. The day that you no longer have to swipe right or find an interesting way of describing your TV addiction on your profile will be a happy one. No more looking at way too many photos of guys standing on mountains or wondering why everyone loves to travel.
  4. Couples have less stress. Researchers at Northwestern and the University of Chicago found that single people have more of the stress hormone cortisol. Maybe it’s because they have each other to bounce off of and share their everyday worries with. If you ask me, it’s because couples don’t have to go on those awkward first dates over and over.
  5. You can still be independent. Many people seem to equate being in a relationship with saying goodbye to your independence. But of course it doesn’t have to be that way. You can happily allow your BF to be a part of your life, not your entire life.
  6. You believe in love. In the age of Tinder hook-ups, it can be tricky to believe in love at first sight, or even any type of love at all. But if you’re a hopeless romantic who’s itching to hold hands with someone at the movies or spend a Sunday exploring the city with your new guy, embrace it.
  7. You know who you are. There’s an old saying that no one can fall in love with you if you don’t love yourself first, and it’s something I totally agree with. We all have quirks and unique hobbies, not to mention dreams and goals, and it doesn’t hurt to take stock of those before getting involved with someone else.
  8. You know it’s not all flowers and chocolate. That stuff is nice, of course, but you know a relationship is full of ups and downs, not just the cute card you might get on Valentine’s Day. You’re ready for a relationship when you are ready to welcome challenges with open arms, because the hard times make all the sweet moments worth it.
  9. You’re tired of being uncertain. There’s nothing worse than an almost relationship, or when you’re spending time with someone and having 24/7 text convos but you’re not official yet. It’s totally fine and even normal to want a relationship where you know where you stand and you’re not wondering what’s going on all the time.
  10. And finally, you’ve met the right person. You know you’re really sick of being single when you go on that sparkly first date full of laughs and amazing conversation, and you just know that you’re ready to take it to the next level.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.