Why The Lead Up To Making Love With A New Guy Can Be Just as Good As The Act Itself

Why The Lead Up To Making Love With A New Guy Can Be Just as Good As The Act Itself ©iStock/teksomolika

Nothing compares to good love-making, but the lead up to hitting the bedroom with a new guy can sometimes feel just as hot as the actual act. After all, the anticipation that comes with knowing you’re about to sleep with him for the first time can seriously get you going in the best possible ways.

  1. In your mind, anything could happen.Before he takes you to his bedroom, you’ll have no idea what’s in store for you. Maybe he’ll make you come harder than you ever have before or maybe he’ll introduce you to a fancy new toy. Your imagination runs wild.
  2. It’s a turn-on to turn him on.When you first glance down at his jeans and realize you’re turning him on, it’s a major confidence booster. You’ll stop worrying about how much weight you’ve put on or how uneven your eyeliner is, because you’ll know that he still thinks you’re attractive.
  3. Men try harder before their clothes come off.Once he knows that sleeping with you is a done deal, it can become all about him, which means you won’t stand a chance of reaching that sweet spot. But before he sleeps with you, he’ll actually have to put in effort to woo you. He’ll make you feel like the most beautiful girl in the universe.
  4. Nothing beats foreplay.There’s a rumor that women love foreplay, and it’s completely true. Even though most men like to skip straight to it, most women wouldn’t mind making out for hours and dry humping until the sun comes up. It can be hotter than the act itself.
  5. It can feel more meaningful.When he’s thrusting with his eyes focused on the wall, he could be fantasizing about any other girl in the world, but when he’s whispering sweet nothings in your ear to get you all warmed up, you’ll know that you’re the only thing on his mind. In that moment, his world revolves around you.
  6. Your curiosity will make you go crazy.Will he make the first move or will he let you do it? Will he be as big as you imagined he’d be down there? Those more questions you have, the more eager you’ll be to find out the answers.
  7. You’re not as self-conscious at first.When your clothes are still on, you won’t be worried about turning the lights off to hide your extra flab or your cellulite. You won’t be worried about how long it takes you to make him come, either, because you’re not up to that step yet.
  8. The anticipation will drive you wild.Think of how exciting it is when a man leans in to kiss you, but doesn’t quite touch your lips yet. For some reason, anticipation is a major turn-on.
  9. It’s hard for him to mess it up.He might be horrible in the bedroom, but as long as he says all the right things, it’s pretty hard for him to ruin the moments right before it. All he has to do is kiss you and run his hands through your hair and he’s golden.
  10. The conversation is sweeter.When you’re actually making love, you probably won’t speak much, unless you’re talking dirty. That’s why the moments leading up to the act are so special. It’s the time when he’ll tell you how beautiful you are and how much he loves you, and those words are a lot sweeter than making love could ever be.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.