Why Do People Think It’s Cool To Not Care? Giving a F*ck Is So Much Better

We are in the age of desensitization — people don’t care because they don’t have to, and it’s a huge problem. The words “give no f*cks” are sprawled across countless memes about everything from relationships to career downfalls, and quite frankly, it’s annoying. There’s nothing admirable about not caring. Sure, it may help you pretend that your heart isn’t broken when you don’t get that great job or your boyfriend cheats on you, but not caring is a character flaw, not something to be proud of.

  1. Cold is not hot. There’s nothing attractive about someone that doesn’t give a crap about anything. It’s passionless and sad. When you’re cold to everything that’s going on, whether it be in your personal life or things that are going on in the world, it doesn’t prove that you’re stronger. All it does is prove that you have some seriously dark issues they need to work on.
  2. Who wants to feel dead inside? In order to feel happiness, you have to give AF about things in life. It’s just how things work, so if you’re walking around “giving no f*cks,” you clearly don’t have a heartbeat to live off of. Not caring is not being alive, so when you decide that the world has wronged you so harshly that you need to shut down your emotions, that’s when you figuratively die.
  3. There’s enough damn hate in the world. Hate is rampant. People hate for no good reason and it’s becoming an epidemic. The “give no f*cks” movement isn’t to blame, but it’s definitely a piece of the hate pie. Instead of not caring about anything ever, maybe you should try caring too much about everything. Instead of thriving on how little feeling you have, you should try to adopt some humanity.
  4. Giving no f*cks won’t protect you from pain. In fact, it allows the pain to win. It lets the jerk that doesn’t care win. Instead of pretending like you’re not hurt by the bad things that happen to you, you should deal with it with nothing but positivity and optimism. Maybe jerks are rampant and a lot of people don’t give a crap, but that doesn’t mean that you have to be like that.
  5. Just because you give no f*cks doesn’t mean you’re better for it. It’s depressing to meet someone who doesn’t care about anything at all. You may seem to have it all figured out and get hurt less than those who openly feel things, but the reality is that you’ve been hurt to such a point that you’re trying to protect yourself from it ever happening again. There’s really no point to it — you’re not going to get anywhere.
  6. It’s an act for the most part, anyway. You’re not fooling anyone by acting like you don’t care about anything or anyone. It’s not cool to not care, but for one reason or another, you feel like you’ll look weak or stupid if you actually seem passionate and emotionally open. That doesn’t mean you don’t cry tears like the rest of us when you’re on your own. We’re all human — why pretend otherwise?
  7. It doesn’t help anyone. Being team “give no f*cks” may appear to be a happy and healthy way to approach life, but it’s not. It’s gone from not letting trivial BS get you down to being downright ruthless to other human beings. We’d be a lot better off if there was a team “give lots of f*cks” and everyone spent some time on the field.
  8. Who decided it was cool not to care anyway? When did all this “not caring” business become the new ‘it’ thing? Sure, not caring about certain small annoyances can lead to a healthier, happier life but surely not giving a damn about anything isn’t something to be marveled at or to strive for.
  9. All it does is allow people to act like jerks. Usually, the term “give no f*cks” is used when someone is doing something ridiculously stupid or horribly mean. It’s an excuse for people to disregard all responsibility to be a decent human being to others.
  10. It shouldn’t be abandoned altogether, but people need to start using it properly. A woman wearing a dress out when she doesn’t usually feel comfortable to do so is a warranted use of the give no f*cks attitude. A man asking a girl who he deems out of his league with no qualms about getting rejected is a good use of the give no f*cks attitude. But until people start to use it properly, it needs to be reevaluated.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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