Sometimes you get really lucky and find a guy who worships the ground you walk on. A man who checks all the boxes on your list and seems perfect for you in every way. However, despite how great he is, you know it’s just not going to work out long-term, for whatever reason. Leaving an amazing man is hard to do, but there are times when the best or only thing to do is to let him go.
- You don’t like or love him. No matter how amazing a guy is, there’s no guarantee that you’re going to love him. It’s possible to even love him but you don’t really like him as a person. For relationships to work, you need to have both. If you’re not as crazy about him as he is about you both romantically and simply for who he is as a human being, being together might not be ideal or fair to both of you. You have to let him go so he can find someone who truly loves him.
- Being with him feels like an obligation. Letting a great guy go can make you feel ungrateful. I mean, you have what others are praying for, so why can’t you just appreciate him and hang on tight? You shouldn’t be with someone just because you think you “owe them that much” or because you’ve been together for a while and breaking up now means the time and effort you’ve invested would go to waste.
- Your baggage is hurting the relationship. Sometimes you meet a great guy but you have way too many outstanding issues that keep creating trouble in your relationship. Maybe you’re dealing with family problems, substance abuse, commitment issues, low self-esteem, insecurity, or trauma from previous relationships. What you need is to focus on healing and processing your issues rather than dragging him down with you.
- Being with him doesn’t make you as happy as it should. Even though people keep telling you how lucky you are to have him, you don’t feel very lucky. You might even be beating yourself up for not being happy with him. The truth is that you can’t force happiness. His amazingness or how much you care about him can’t make up for that. You deserve to be happy even if that means letting an amazing guy go.
- You’re not ready to settle down. Commitment is a big deal and you shouldn’t rush into it unless you’re ready for it. Sometimes the universe sends a wonderful guy your way when you’re just not in a place where settling down is a great option. Maybe you’re still too young and you have a lot more growing up and gaining experience to do before you can commit to a long-term relationship.
- The time just isn’t right. People like to say that there’s no such thing as wrong timing when love is involved, but that’s not exactly true. Sometimes life really does get in the way of your happiness. You might end up having to move to a different city for school your job. Or maybe you want kids and he doesn’t. Whatever the reason, if the timing is off, you might have to end things with that dream guy.
- Your life goals aren’t aligned. Your goals can make or break your relationship with the most amazing guy. If you don’t share the same values or you’re not on the same page about things like having kids, getting married, where you want to live, or what you want to do career-wise, it might be a good idea to part ways before resentment and bitterness creep in. You don’t want to stay in a relationship where one person feels like they’re sacrificing too much to make it work. You both deserve to be with someone who wants the same things you do and has a similar timeframe for achieving those goals.
- There’s no spark. Maybe there used to be a spark between you and him, but it’s gone now. Or maybe it was never there from the beginning. Whatever the case, if that magic isn’t there, it can be difficult to manufacture or revive it. If all your effort to create a spark fail, then the best thing to do would be to cut him loose.
- You’re losing track of who you are. It’s so easy to get lost in a relationship. You change a little here and a little there to suit your partner, then one morning you wake up to realize you don’t recognize yourself anymore. There’s no man in the world worthy of you sacrificing who you are. So when you discover that you’re constantly doing that, it’s probably time to say goodbye. It’ll hurt, but it’s the right decision.
