Why Waiting By The Phone For Him To Call Is A Waste Of Time

These days, sitting by the phone takes on a whole new meaning, and no, it isn’t any less common. At one point in time, poor suffering souls would literally stay in hearing distance of the landline in hopes that he would finally call. This sometimes resulted in other missed activities, which was lame, but eventually the pull of the real world would drive someone away. Or they’d get hungry for something not in the house. But these days, we have our phones glued to us 24/7 (you sleep with your phone in your bed next to you, don’t you?), which doesn’t mean that we can’t leave the house, but it does mean that we can never escape the waiting. Here’s why you need to.

  1. It’s not going to make him call. Or text. Let’s start with this, like any other type of worrying out there, it doesn’t help if you can’t do something proactive about the issue. If you can, do it. If you can’t, let it go.
  2. You’ll invent scenarios that aren’t helpful. You know when you’re waiting for that guy to respond to your text about how much fun you had last night and he doesn’t, and you start to fantasies about all the terrible things that might have happened to him on his commute…yeah that.
  3. You have stuff to do. Look we only have so much available brainpower, and even less after that bottle of wine you killed Netflix binging and staying up too late last night. Save it for remembering all the stuff on your grocery list so you don’t forget to buy coffee again.
  4. There are plenty of people who actually want to talk. Why are you waiting for one person to contact you like you need validation or something about how awesome you are? Talk to the people who text you all day long – they know what’s up.
  5. Because you already Facebook stalked him. It’s not like you were going to sit around wondering what he’s up to when he’s not with you, so you checked out his social media just to make sure he’s still in town and not making out with someone else publicly. Nothing to report.
  6. Because you missed that hot guy checking you out at the coffee shop. Look at you, little miss glued to her phone. You didn’t even notice that way hotter, probably way cooler dude checking you out and trying to make eye contact, because you didn’t ever look up.
  7. It sets you up for disaster. Why do you want to punish yourself and even get irritated at him when really he’s just in a meeting, not ignoring you? There are going to be lots of awaited calls in texts in life, so don’t blow it out of proportion.
  8. There are lots of hours in the day. Are you really going to check your phone every 13 seconds for the next six hours? What if he was waiting until after work to text you? What’s the difference?
  9. Because you texted him multiple times. Don’t go into a tailspin imagining that he didn’t get your texts or that he misinterpreted one is now mad at you, or else you might text him again.
  10. Because he’s not calling. Or texting. Look, if he’s busy he’s busy, and if he’s not he’s not calling you because he doesn’t want to. Sorry.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog ThatsRandomKate.blogspot.com