Maturity and responsibility are important qualities for a guy to have, but you also deserve someone who’s going to make you feel the sparks and butterflies you experienced when you were a teenager. If it’s not fun, what’s the point? Here are 11 reasons why you should echo Katy Perry’s sentiment and “feel like you’re living a teenage dream.”
You deserve to have some fun. Life’s stressful enough without your relationship being toxic or bringing you down. Get with someone who brings joy into your life. If you’ve noticed more wrinkles from frowning instead of smiling, he’s not The One!
You should be laughing. How many times does your guy make you laugh? If you’re not bonding over a shared sense of humor or laughing more than crying, he’s not worth your time. Who wants to spend a lifetime feeling miserable?
The spark’s important. Of course, having a spark isn’t the most important requirement for a relationship, but it sure helps. It’s damn delicious when you feel those butterflies in your stomach and get nervous when he’s about to kiss you. It feels like electricity is bubbling through your veins. Without that feeling, life’s pretty drab.
You should be with someone who makes you feel comfortable. You can’t be popping your knee during a kiss and relishing in sweet anticipation of what’s going to happen if you’re not with a guy you feel you can be yourself around. You need someone with whom you can be 100% yourself. It makes all those butterflies and anticipation so much more exciting.
You deserve a great love. Who needs mediocre love in their life? Bear in mind that there’s a difference between expecting a fairytale love and having a great relationship. The former’s something out of a lame, unrealistic rom-com while the second is about being with someone who makes your life better without taking away who you are; someone whose presence in your life is associated with happiness.
You should be with a positive guy. It’s tempting to find the moody guy attractive, but in real life, he tends to be an a-hole. A guy who can see the lighter side of life and is brimming with optimism is much better for your mood and zen.
You shouldn’t have serious dates. You might want to give that movie-and-dinner date a skip this week. It’s boring! Think like a teenager and make dating fun. What would a teen do when going on a date? She’d probably want to go dancing on the beach or she’d want to roller skate. Kids know how to have fun so channel your inner teen and dare to think differently about what your dates should be like. There’s no doubt they’ll be more fun for you and your partner, and breathe fresh air into your relationship.
You should want to make new memories. If you go into a relationship wanting to have fun and living your life to the fullest, then you’re just like your younger self who’s experiencing the thrill of first love. What a time to be alive. The key to getting into that mindset is to think of what you’ll remember about your dates and boyfriend when you’re older. Those magical moments help you to live in the present and focus on having fun. Only good stuff should crash your date, and here’s where dating a positive guy helps.
Who says you shouldn’t be happy? Sometimes, when we meet a new guy we think that we’ve got to pace ourselves mood-wise. We shouldn’t get too happy because things might fall apart, like we might discover he’s a serial killer or has a wife in another country or whatever. Screw that. If you feel happy, be happy. Milk it for what you can! Life’s not meant to be half-lived and you should be with someone who lives large in the same way.
Why shouldn’t you have a partner who helps you dream? You know that feeling when you’re young and in love, and you feel like the world’s yours for the taking? When last did you feel that? If you have to stop and count the months or years, then you need to be in a relationship where you don’t neglect your dreams, no matter how lofty they may feel. Just think: with someone by your side who supports you and isn’t afraid to dream outside of the box of reality, there’s no limit to what you both can achieve.