Why You Should Let Everyone You Know Set You Up On A Date

No one else knows who you’re attracted to better than you do, so letting other people choose your dates seems kind of like a waste of time. But if you’re serious about finding love, you’d be smart to allow no stone to be left unturned — even if that means finally going out with your co-worker’s friend’s single cousin. What’s the worst that could happen on a blind date?

  1. It could help you get out of your dating rut.It’s easy to get set in your ways and either find yourself in a vicious cycle of dating the same type of guy over and over or just not making time for dating at all. Sometimes, a little nudge in the form of an unexpected blind date is all you need to kick-start your enthusiasm for dating again.
  2. All you have to do is show up.You don’t have to agonize over whether you should text him now or wait an hour, get frustrated that he hasn’t asked you out yet, or go through the arduous process of trying to organize a time and place to meet up. It’s all taken care of, and all you have to bring is yourself. How often is dating that easy?
  3. It probably means he’s interested in a relationship.Not many guys agree to be set up with someone if they’re just looking for casual sex. They can use online dating or go to a bar for that, because it’s never smart to alienate people in your own social network. You never know when that could come back to bite you.
  4. You have nothing to lose.Besides a couple hours that you probably would have just spent watching Friends in your pajamas, you’re not really giving up much. If the date doesn’t go well, no big deal. But if it does, you’ll be glad you pried yourself away from Netflix for an evening.
  5. It might be good practice.You probably don’t think about dating as something that takes practice, but not everyone is a natural charmer. Dates can be nerve-wracking and awkward, but the more dates you go on, the easier it’ll get. Even if you know immediately a guy isn’t The One, you can still take the opportunity to brush up on your small talk skills so you’re at the top of your game when you’re sitting across from someone you’re really interested in.
  6. You’ll get out of your comfort zone.If you never challenge yourself, you’ll probably have a hard time figuring out what you really want and what you’re capable of. That extends to your love life because if you always date the same basic type, you’ll miss out on a lot of guys who might be great for you if you just gave them a chance.
  7. You’ll be able to say you’ve officially tried everything.Maybe it’s true that you never have a date on Friday night, but if you keep turning down everyone’s offer to set you up, you have no right to complain. Not to mention, if you just suck it up and go out with your grandma’s best friend’s grandson, she’ll finally stop bugging you about it.
  8. It means he’s already been screened for you.Meeting someone through mutual acquaintances means someone else already knows them and has given them their stamp of approval. That means you won’t have to worry about showing up to meet a guy who’s 15 years old or 40 pounds heavier than what you expected,
  9. At least you’ll be expanding your social circle.Even if a blind date doesn’t turn out the be a love connection, you could still be friends. And having more friends means having even more opportunities meet the right guy.
  10. Maybe one of them will be perfect for you.The best case scenario is that you and your next blind date will fall madly in love and live happily ever after. As unrealistic and impossible as that seems, you never know. It has happened to other people, and it could happen to you. But not if you don’t try.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.