It can be so hard to cope with being single when it seems like everyone around you is falling in love and living out all of your romantic fantasies. You’re probably totally sick of hearing people say things like “don’t worry, your time will come” and “it’ll happen when you least expect it.” As annoying as these cliche phrases can be, though, they’re not all wrong. Your time for romance might finally be here. Here are some signs that you are ready to receive that love that you’ve been waiting for.
- You’ve got yourself figured out. I don’t think we’re ever truly done changing and evolving, but there comes a time in our adult lives where we really start to know who we are deep down. You’ve experienced a good amount of life at this point, you’ve been through things that have made you stronger and wiser, and you have a grounded surety of who you are as a person. Having yourself figured out is an essential component to meeting someone with who you could have a meaningful relationship. Once you have that situated, you’d be surprised at how much easier it is to find great people.
- You have a concrete idea of the kind of guy you want to end up with. At this point in your life, you’ve dated quite a few different people and you’ve learned through these relationships the kind of qualities you admire in a partner and the ones that you don’t appreciate as much. This knowledge and experience will help you in the future because you’ll have a picture of what the perfect partner for you is like in your head. This will make seeing a potential future in someone much easier.
- You’ve established standards and you stick to them. The negative things that we experience in failed relationships will often be the foundation of the standards we set for our future partners. Once you know exactly what you will and will not tolerate in relationships, this will make finding your perfect match a lot easier. You won’t have to waste your time on people who you know aren’t right for you because they don’t meet your standards.
- You’ve put the pain of the past behind you. Relationships that end badly can sometimes leave you feeling jaded or bitter towards love. Those feelings are perfectly normal to have and you might need a good amount of time before you’re ready to put yourself back out there again, but you have to remember not to let those feelings stay forever. If you’ve been burned in the past by love but have allowed yourself to heal and to believe in love again, you will be open to receiving it and it won’t be a pain that you have to live with forever.
- You’re totally content being single. In order to be in a place where you can meet your Mr. Right, you have to make sure that you’re entering a new relationship for the right reasons. Jumping from one relationship to the next with no time in between is often a behavior people engage in because they’re afraid of being single. Being single after an intense relationship is key to finding yourself again and giving yourself the focus and attention you need to heal. Once you’ve become comfortable with being single and really enjoyed that time, you’ll be in a much better position to meet the right person for you.
- You’ve achieved total self-love. It’s not enough to just know yourself and become comfortable with yourself, you have to truly love yourself in order to be able to meet the love of your life. It’s true that you can’t really love someone else until you love yourself and once you make the realization, you will be in a position to meet the best guy for you.
- You’re at peace with the timing of the universe. Once you’ve figured out how to relax and truly trust the universe’s plan for your life, your heart will be so much more open to finding true love. If all you do is stress and freak over the idea that you will never meet the one or that you’re running out of time, not only will you be putting yourself through an emotional roller coaster for no reason but, this would be completely counterproductive. You have to be at peace with the course of your life in order for things to unfold the way they’re meant to.
- You’ve cut ties with the past. It can be hard to let go of past relationships and exes that at one time meant a lot to you but the fact of the matter is, you won’t be able to move on until you cut them out of your life. If you’re still making regular or even occasional contact with any of your exes, if you still find yourself stalking their social media profiles, or you’re tempted to text them late at night, do everything you can to sabotage your attempts. Block their social media accounts, delete their numbers from your phone, whatever it takes to break off contact. Trust me, you will never be able to move on with the past staring you in the face every day.
- You’ve stopped making your whole life about finding love. This ties back into the old saying that it happens when you least expect it. If you’re obsessing over finding true love and have made it your sole purpose in life, it’s either never going to come to you or you’ll be so desperate for it that you’ll end up settling for someone who isn’t right for you. You have to learn how to value and truly enjoy your life as a single woman and find happiness in all the other amazing things in your life. Once you learn how to love life and yourself just as you are, you’ll be amazed at how suddenly your soulmate could come walking into your life.
