Will We Get Back Together? Signs Your Relationship With Your Ex Isn’t Over

Your relationship is over… but is it just for now? If you wonder if there’s a chance that you’ll get back together with your ex in the future and you think that’s something you might want to happen, pay attention to your post-breakup connection. If any of these things are happening, chances are you’ll end up giving it another go.

  1. You broke up on good terms. Just because you’re no longer together doesn’t mean you hate each other’s guts. If you ended your relationship amicably and have remained on good terms ever since, that’s a good sign. It means that the door isn’t fully closed on a reunion if the circumstances were right in the future.
  2. You’re still in regular contact and he initiates a lot of it. He’s no longer your boyfriend but you wouldn’t know that by how often the two of you are in touch. You comment on each other’s social media posts, text each other, and even call each other regularly. Not only that, but it’s not all one-sided—he initiates much of the contact you have, which means he’s not really that keen on leaving you behind.
  3. Neither of you has made an effort to meet or date anyone else. You haven’t been together for a couple of months now, but neither of you is in a hurry to start dating anyone else. It’s not that you’re purposely avoiding moving on, it just literally hasn’t crossed your mind or his. Maybe this is because subconsciously, you’re both hoping that you’ll end up together again in the end.
  4. You’ve spent the time apart working on yourselves. You’ve never been one to rest on your laurels, but ever since your relationship ended, you’ve really taken the time to work on yourself. Maybe you’ve started therapy to work on some issues you’re struggling with or you’ve gone back to school, joined the gym, picked up a new hobby, etc. Not only that, but you know your ex is doing the same. You’re not doing these things because you’re thinking about getting back together but if you do, it’ll certainly help.
  5. You’ve both been unhappy since you broke up. It’s normal to be sad after a relationship ends, especially if you were together for a while. However, you notice that your ex seems particularly miserable since you split up and you feel the same. It’s like some of the joy you both had in life has been sucked out of you. Maybe this is because you know you’re meant to be together?
  6. Whatever broke you up was trivial/not really a dealbreaker. Maybe your relationship ended over something silly and trivial. No one cheated and you didn’t fall out of love or anything like that, it was just a difference of opinion or a fight that led you to make a really impulsive decision that you now regret. If what split you up wasn’t something that you can’t overcome, maybe you’ll be able to make it work after all.
  7. Your relationship as a whole was mostly positive. If the time you spent together is something you look back on with mostly happiness and good memories, then it’s safe to assume your relationship was a positive experience. If being together is good, why wouldn’t you both want to give it another go?
Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill