When you’ve been single for a long time, it’s very easy to start panicking, especially if you seem to be constantly surrounded by strong, happy couples. Whether this is feeling like no one seems to be interested in dating you right now or worrying that you’ll be alone forever, we’ve all been there. When you’re in that place, remember these 10 things.
Relationships aren’t as rosy as they seem.
It’s hard to see smiling couples on social media or strangers on the street holding hands and not assume that life is so much better when you’re in a relationship. That said, the reality of being in a couple can be so much more challenging than what it looks like from the outside. Don’t forget that when you’re sobbing into a tub of ice-cream on a Friday night because you’re about to spend your third weekend in a row by yourself.
It’s better to wait for the right person than waste time dating the wrong ones.
If you’re really struggling with being single, you might be tempted to jump into a relationship with the first person who comes along. This wouldn’t be the smartest idea. After all, it’s better to hang on and make sure you’re dating a person who will add nothing but joy to your existence than to waste your time, effort, and energy with short-term flings that will be out of your life faster than you can say Jack Robinson.
Love is overrated.
Speaking of relationships, they’re hard work these days. Things don’t happen like they do in the movies. It’s rarely boy meets girl, boy romances girl, boy gets girl, and they live happily ever after. It’s not enough to just fall in love in the twenty-first century—several things have to be right for the relationship to work. And if they’re a serial app dater? Forget about it.
Settling never works out in the long run.
Even though you might find several people you have connections with along the way, it’s not a good idea to get into a relationship with one just because you feel like you’re ready to get married or have kids. Sure, you should never have to sacrifice what you want, but you also deserve to have those things with a person who’s deserving of you and complements you in every way.
The grass is always greener on the other side.
It’s an old saying but it’s true: you’re always going to have problems in your life, even when you have everything you thought you wanted. If you catch yourself daydreaming about a relationship, switch it to a nightmare where you have to consider your other half in everything that you do, make every decision together, and end up arguing about everything under the sun. You’ll soon start being thankful for your single status.
Being alone doesn’t mean you have to be lonely.
Newsflash: being single doesn’t equal being lonely. You can enrich your life with other relationships if you’re at a romantic stalemate, i.e. friends, family, and acquaintances.
It’ll happen when it’s meant to happen.
I’m a big believer in things happening in your life when you’re most ready for them. They’re on God’s time schedule and will occur at the right time when they’re meant to. If they haven’t happened yet, God has a larger plan for you and you must be patient while He sees it through.
You won’t be single forever.
If you want to end up in a relationship, it’s likely that you will end up in a relationship. Use this time that you’re single to have fun, date different personalities, and work out what exactly you want in a partner—and in life. Then you will be better off when you do come across your soulmate.
There are around eight billion people in the world.
With so many people on the planet, you’re bound to be compatible with a fair few. If you’ve loved before, the likelihood that you’ll love again is high. You just need to make sure that whomever you pick for the long-term is the best match for you.
You’re developing into a strong, independent person.
In the meantime, while you wait for your next big relationship, you can use the time to work on yourself. You can develop yourself into a strong, independent person who anybody else would be lucky to have—and that’s amazing.
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