If You Want To Win The Heart Of A Badass Woman, Here’s How To Do It

If You Want To Win The Heart Of A Badass Woman, Here’s How To Do It ©iStock/Svetikd

Being strong, ambitious, totally self-sufficient women means we don’t need a relationship to complete us or to be happy. We already have amazing lives and any guy we decide to add to it has to be worth it. In other words, if you want to win us over, you need to do these things at the very least:

  1. Make an effort. Make the first date plan. Choose the restaurant, bar, movie, whatever it is. Follow up in a legit amount of time, say you really like us and want to get to know us better, and don’t be super lazy. Doesn’t seem too hard when we break it down like that, right?
  2. Give a crap. If you don’t care about us, then guess what? We’re not going to care about you. It’s really as simple as that. You also should probably prove that you want this to actually go somewhere. We’re busy and have plenty of other things to invest our time and energy into if you’re not ready to give this a real go.
  3. Be honest. If you want something real, why not tell us? You’re not going to get very far with us if you hide your feelings and try to win the race of who can care the very least. At the same time, if there’s something you definitely DON’T want, speak up about that too.
  4. Do the opposite of what so many of the other guys we’ve met do. We’re used to guys lying, ghosting, and only wanting something super casual. If you want to truly win us over, then you need to do the opposite of what all those other guys do. You need to tell us how you feel, contact us on a regular basis, and be in this for real.
  5. Keep plans. If you say you want to see us Friday night at 7 pm then you need to keep that plan. Period. You can’t just bail on us because something else came up. Yeah, we get that life happens and you might have to reschedule some plans, but that doesn’t mean that we never hear from you again. That means that you find another time, make a new plan, and keep that one.
  6. Be interesting. When you bore us to tears on the first date, you’re never going to even get a second date, let alone win us over. It’s just not going to happen. We’re looking for someone who is an actual person: fun, funny, sweet, smart, witty. We just don’t think that’s too much to ask for.
  7. Prove that we’re the only one. We don’t think it’s cool if you date a bunch of girls and think you’re the hottest guy ever. We want to be the only one in your life… and we want you to prove that to us for sure. If you can’t make us feel special, then we really have nothing else to say to you.
  8. Be reasonable. Even if we like you, we don’t want to drop everything for you. And we’re definitely not going to. Be reasonable about how much time we’re going to spend with you and how much time we’re going to take out of our busy day to text you. Once you can respect our time and appreciate the fact that we’re making an effort to be with you, we’ll be much more likely to be all in.
  9. Give us some space. You can claim that you need guy time or that you don’t want a girlfriend who’s practically attached to your hip, and yet that won’t stop you from wanting to be with us 24/7. That’s just the way that it goes in new relationships. Give us some space and we’re all yours. Really.
  10. Talk about the future. We’ve been with way too many guys who think that the future will never, ever be here and that it’s the most terrifying thing ever. We’re looking for someone who not only wants to share their future with us but also has their own goals and dreams.
  11. Make the everyday magical. We’re busier than ever before and we’re not interested in a dull relationship or, worse, a super dramatic once. You need to add something to our life, not make it worse. If you can make the everyday magical and if we always have fun with you no matter what, you’re on the right track.
  12. Be real. We’re not going to judge you if you open up to us or prove that you’re not a robot who has zero emotions. If you can be real with us and show us the real you, we’re going to be real right back. And hey, we just might have something here.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.