While plenty of couples write their own vows to read out to their partner on their wedding day, there are some classics that tend to stay put, like the promise to love and care for one another rich or poor, in sickness and in health. Strangely enough, one woman is asking her fiance to remove the “in sickness” part as she really “hates taking care of sick people.” Uh, what?!
- The bride-to-be shared her story on Reddit. Taking to AITA, the 29-year-old woman admits that she knows it sounds “harsh” but she really can’t stand taking are of sick people. “My siblings and I were always taking care of our parents whenever they get sick and I just hate it, I’m sick of it and I hate feeling bound or obligated to take care of somebody, my life is full of moments and events like this and I just finally want to live my life to the fullest,” she writes.
- She apparently feels lucky to have an amazing fiance. The woman goes on to say that she’s looking forward to saying “I do” to her fiance — so long as he doesn’t develop any kind of illness, I suppose! “I’m going to be married soon to my lovely partner and the best guy in the world. I’m so lucky and happy to have him by my side,” she shares. She goes on to say that her husband wants to read the traditional Christian wedding vows out during the ceremony, which she’s only somewhat on board with.
- The fiance’s suggested vows are actually really sweet. They read: “I, _, take thee, _, to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith.”
- The issue is, she really doesn’t want the “in sickness” part. She says that while she’s happy to read out “identical” vows, just minus the “in sickness” part, which she’s going to replace with “in happiness.” Um, wow.
- Obviously, her fiance’s really unhappy about that. “My fiance says that he will not accept this and he is very mad at me, he is even rethinking the whole thing, I just don’t want to feel obligated to take care of anybody sick for years of my own and only life, it’s so stressful and I think he is being very unreasonable right now, it’s just a marriage vow and I have the choice to change it,” she says.
- She insists she’s not being entirely selfish. She goes on to clarify that she’s not going to run for the hills the minute her soon-to-be husband gets a cold or flu. “It depends on the disease, obviously, I’m going to have no problems taking care of somebody with a cold or some flu or some broken bones, however, if it’s chronic/severe and requires so much time and playing around (diets, restrictions, surgery risk, special conditions, frequent problems…etc) like Crohn’s disease, ulcerative colitis, disabilities, cancer…etc then no, I had enough of those in my life,” she explains.
- Needless to say, everyone thinks she’s a mess. “Anyways it is super clear OP has no freaking clue what marriage is and the fiance if smart should nope out of that fast,” one person writes. Another adds: “Why in the world would you even want to get married then?” Another rightfully pointed out that the woman clearly isn’t ready for marriage. “You aren’t ready to be someone’s life partner. And that’s okay! If you never want to take care of someone, don’t take that leap. You’re free to live the single life, date, and never commit. But that means you don’t get the benefits of committed partnership either. You can’t love people in slices. You have to take the good with the bad.”
