A woman on TikTok has sparked a serious debate after admitting that she uninvited her own mother from her wedding. Felicity Rae documented the run-up to her big day for the social media network and made it a point to be transparent about every element of the planning process. She eventually admitted that she didn’t want her mom to come as she worried the older woman would make her wedding day a “living hell.”
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- Felicity had her reasons for not wanting her mom there. Because your wedding day is supposed to be one of the most important days of your life, Felicity wanted things to be perfect. That wouldn’t have been the case if her mom was there. “I just felt not appreciated, not supported, and I just felt this heavy anxiety and the overwhelming feeling that she was just going to make my life and day a living hell,” she explained.
- Her mom hadn’t been helpful during the planning process. Instead of being excited for her daughter getting married and trying to help, Felicity admitted that her mom had actually been very discouraging. “She knew that I had been feeling kind of overwhelmed and just under pressure,” she explained. “At one point, she even said that this isn’t normal and that I should get help – instead of being like, ‘How can I help?’ During the call, she said, ‘You know what? You’ve turned quite the f***ing snob lately’ – those exact words. Immediately, I said, ‘You’re uninvited to the wedding,’ and she said, ‘That’s fine.’ And then I blocked her on social media.”
- Many people supported Felicity’s decision. In the comments section, users sounded off in support. “You did the right thing to protect yourself and your energy,” one person wrote. “Sometimes our own family can be the most hurtful. I’m proud of you for setting boundaries.” Another added: “I can sympathize with you. Put you first!” A third recounted her own experiences, sharing: “I set boundaries with my mom and my sisters. They LOVE to gossip and talk trash about one another. My mom didn’t like it and she’s very dramatic.”
- Not everyone supported or understood where Felicity was coming from. However, as in most things, you have to do what’s right for you. The idea that family is family and you should put up with anything from them because of it is toxic as hell. Felicity looks like she had an amazing wedding day without her mom there, so good for her for putting her foot down!
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