Women Who Know What They Deserve In Relationships Are More Likely To Get It

The more highly you value yourself, the better off you are in every area of life, especially in relationships. You deserve someone amazing who will give you multiple orgasms and always let you pick the movie — and that’s the bare minimum. Here’s why women who know what they deserve are more likely to get it:

  1. Confidence goes a long way.The only thing that men like more than big brains and hot bodies is confidence. If you think you’re a woman worth talking to, it’ll be easy for you to convince men that they should give you a chance. That’s why you’re always told to learn to love yourself before loving anyone else.
  2. They realize high goals aren’t unobtainable.Most of us tend to set our sights too low, because we don’t want to fail. Well, you need to push that mindset out the window. The only way you’ll end up with someone amazing is if you make it your mission to find one instead of settling for a mediocre relationship.
  3. Optimism always helps.If you don’t think you have a chance with a certain person, you’re going to psych yourself out before you even introduce yourself to them. Meanwhile, if you do think you have a chance, you’ll be in the right frame of mind for flirting. A positive attitude can go a long way.
  4. High standards lead to happy relationships.If you have high standards, then you’re going to expect the person you date to reach them. You won’t settle for someone decent, because you’ll know that you only deserve the best.
  5. Doubts can destroy you.If you don’t think you deserve a good person, then you’ll get paranoid when you actually find one. If you think poorly of yourself, you’ll wonder why they’re wasting their time with you, and that’s a dangerous question to ask. That’s why you need to think highly of yourself if you want to be happy.
  6. Visualizing their goals helps reach them.Why do you think so many women create vision boards? If you imagine your life heading in a certain direction, then there’s a higher chance of it actually happening. If you know that you deserve a certain type of life, start by imagining what it would be like, and then you can work towards making it happen.
  7. They actually go after what they want.You won’t get anywhere by sitting on your butt. You need to go after the people you want, and that won’t happen until you realize you deserve them and they deserve you.
  8. People respond well to their positivity.If you go out on a date and list all of your flaws, you’ll make a terrible first impression. Meanwhile, if you think highly of yourself and show your best self, you could end up with the person you want.
  9. They realize they deserve happiness.Some women actually prefer being miserable, because they don’t think that they deserve happiness. Well, you do. Forget about all of your past mistakes and remember that you deserve the best life you can possibly create for yourself.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.