You’re not alone – this site wouldn’t have very many readers if you were – but it’s hard not to feel like you are. It’s easy to get down on the dating game but that definitely doesn’t mean you should give up. Here’s what you need to remember when looking for love starts to feel hopeless:
- The guy for you is out there. I know that’s hard to believe, especially when you’ve been searching for him for so long, but he is. Considering how many people there are in this world, it’s pretty unlikely that you’re not destined to be with one of them. He might take a while to find, but trust me – he’ll be well worth the wait.
- Giving up is the fastest way to end up alone. It’s hard to keep getting back up when life and love keep pushing you back down, but you have to keep trying. I think we’ve all felt like giving up from time to time, but the women who find love are the ones who, despite every setback, just kept pushing through. It’s going to take a lot of strength, but that strength is in you.
- It’s the bad guys who are the real forever alone. You should feel sorry for the jerk who hurt you because he’ll never be able to experience real love. Maybe he deserves to be alone, but that’s just a reminder that you don’t. You might keep getting hurt in love but at least you’re trying. You’re not forever alone, but the ass that left you will be.
- There are a lot of fish in the sea. Think about it this way: there are over seven billion people on this earth and you’re looking for just one. That number shouldn’t make you feel overwhelmed; it should make you hopeful because odds are you will find a guy to share your life with. You just probably won’t catch him on your first try.
- Don’t spend all your time looking for Mr. Right. Sometimes Mr. Right will come find you. That doesn’t mean you should stop dating altogether, it just means finding “The One” shouldn’t be the main focus of your life. You need to make time for friends, family, hobbies and a career. You’ll meet Mr. Right someday, but you can’t put your life on hold until you do.
- Not all guys are the same. Just because one guy you dated was a jerk doesn’t mean all men are jerks. How would you feel if every guy you met assumed you were just like his ex? It might be hard to let your guard down (especially if you’ve been hurt before), but every guy deserves a fair chance. Your ex is the one who hurt you, so make sure it’s only him you hold responsible.
- If you did end up alone, you’d be okay. That’s what you have to know and believe. You might want a guy in your life, but you don’t need one. Sometimes accepting the fact that you’d be fine on your own is the thing standing in your way of a real relationship. A guy doesn’t desire a woman who needs him. He’s looking to be wanted, just like you.
