With the amount of players out there, it can be difficult to recognize a good guy with actual good intentions. If you’re in a situation where you’re constantly analyzing his actions to decide whether he likes you, stop. Here’s how you’ll know if that’s the case.
You won’t be guessing at all. First of all, if you have to second guess everything he’s doing or you’re getting a bunch of red flags, games are being played. Being in torturous limbo with a guy is an easy way to see where you stand. A crappy guy will always make you feel insecure and confused, but a good guy won’t make you stress over where you stand—he’ll show you instead.
He’ll spend as much time as he can with you. When you really like someone, you want to spend as much of your free time with them as possible—it’s that simple. Guys are no exception. We’re all busy, but when a guy is really into you, he’ll put you at the top of his list. If he’s making you a last-minute option or bails on you for pretty much anything else, you totally have your answer.
He won’t be making excuses for his actions. A guy who’s full of excuses for why he didn’t call or why he couldn’t stick to the plans you made is clearly showing you that you’re not his priority. Instead of making excuses for him and buying into his BS, remember that if he’s really into you, he’s not going to be justifying why he couldn’t be with you.
You won’t be the one chasing him around. Relationships are definitely a two-way street and a joint effort, but if you’re the one constantly initiating all the plans and conversations, he probably doesn’t give a crap. Guys like a little bit of a chase and if he’s not willing to pursue you then he’s probably pursuing someone else.
There won’t be last minute, late night plans. Guys who will call you up last minute when all their other plans fell through are only using you to fill their time. If he’s really interested in you and getting to know you, he’ll be asking you out several days in advance to make sure you don’t make other plans. If he wants to see you, he’ll make it happen.
Proper dates become a thing. When the only thing your guy wants to do is Netflix and chill, you’re in trouble. If he cares to know you and get serious, he’ll make the effort to plan a proper date. When it seems like he’s constantly hiding you out in his house, he probably is.
He’ll ask questions and actually take an interest in your answers. If he likes you enough to get to know you, he’ll have conversations with you to learn about who you are. He’ll want to see how compatible you are and get to know you on a deeper level. Players are the ones who just want you to come over to get down and dirty. They never care about you, they only care about themselves.
He’ll include you in his life. It’s definitely a big red flag if you’ve never met his friends or family. Players always keep you hidden but if he’s into you, he’ll want to have the other important people in his life get to know the amazing girl he’s met. He’ll be pumped to bring you to events and show you off.
He’ll actively participate in your life. Not only will he want to bring you around his own friends and family, he’ll also want to be included in your life. If you have a big event coming up, chances are he’ll happily volunteer to be your date. Not only that but if you have a hobby or are passionate about something, he’ll take an interest so he can participate alongside you.
He’ll compliment you and mean it. He won’t be pulling the BS compliments just to try and get himself laid. Instead, he’ll be telling you that you’re beautiful or that you look nice when you show up on your date. Not only that, he’ll comment on things like your intelligence or how he’s into how driven you are. He’ll notice qualities you have and not just the fact that he thinks you’re hot. If he likes you, he’ll be sure to find different ways to tell you.
He has plans for the future and you’re included. Gone are the days when you’re noticeably absent from any and all of the future plans the guy you’re kind of in a relationship with has for himself. When he’s really into you, he can’t picture his future without you in it and he’ll make sure you know he wants you there.