If He Won’t Go Down On You, Get Him The Hell Out Of Your Life

Ladies, life is simply to short to waste time with a guy who isn’t willing to maximize your pleasure. If he expects you to do him any favors, he should damn well be giving you what you need as well. There are plenty of guys out there who will not only go down on you, but will delight in doing so. Here are some solid reasons you shouldn’t waste time with one who doesn’t:

  1. He’s selfish. This is the bottom line. If he doesn’t like it or isn’t into it, that’s his problem. You can go find someone who is. If he just doesn’t feel like it or would rather focus on getting his own rocks off, that’s simply unacceptable. Don’t fall for his excuses, or feel bad about wanting him to want to give you a good time. You’re giving your body over to him. You absolutely deserve to get what you need.
  2. If he’s so grossed out by your vag, he shouldn’t be allowed near it. Oh, so he wants to sleep with you you but somehow isn’t okay with getting his face near your crotch? Screw that double standard. He either loves vagina or he doesn’t. If he’s perfectly okay with shooting off a load inside you but gives no thought to getting you off beforehand, he’s just a useless jerk.
  3. If you go down on him, he’d damn well better return the favor. Turn about is fair play. Just like it sucks if he won’t go down on you, it’s pretty crappy if you don’t do the same for him. On that note, if you are a giving partner, he shouldn’t expect that he doesn’t have to return the favor. No one should be a selfish person – it’s just not any fun. The more generous the partner, the more likely you are to want to give back. If you love going down on guys, you should be sleeping with someone who feels the same way about you.
  4. He probably isn’t giving you the other things you need. A man’s behavior in the bedroom is generally somewhat indicative of his behavior in life. If he’s not considerate of your needs between the sheets, you might want to look at whether he’s taking care of them at all! A giving, sensitive, loving person will be that way in all areas of your relationship. It’s not that he has to be all sweet and sappy. Everyone likes a guy who takes charge sometimes. It’s about whether he cares about giving you a good time.
  5. If he’s selfish in bed, he’s selfish in life. You should’ve noticed that before you slept with him, but it’s definitely obvious now. The little details are everything. When a guy is only worried about his own agenda sexually, it makes you feel like crap. You could be just any girl, and that’s not cool. You probably feel that way about the rest of your relationship also. Ain’t nobody got time for selfish jerks, girl. Move along.
  6. He isn’t interested in nurturing you as a human being. He doesn’t make the extra effort to give you pleasure. He doesn’t take care of your sexual needs. He won’t take care of your emotional and mental needs either. Of course, we’re all capable of standing alone, but a partnership should be just that. You should both be invested in helping each other grow and develop, making each other better people. A guy who isn’t interested in going the extra mile in bed won’t go the extra mile in romance either.
  7. He’s sexually boring. Sorry, but it’s true. If he won’t even go down on you, what else isn’t he doing? You’re probably having a ton of very vanilla sex. Don’t settle for someone who climbs up on you, pumps away, gets his jollies, and rolls over to pass out. That’s some old people crap. You love sex and you absolutely have to be with someone else who also loves it…and loves giving pleasure to every little bit of you!
  8. Making you happy should make him happy. That’s what it’s all about, after all. Making each other happy. If getting head makes you joyful, then he’d damn well better wanna give you that. Why else be with someone? He gives you pleasure, you give him pleasure, everybody wins. If he doesn’t do that for you, there’s really no point.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.