I’ve officially had enough of hookup culture and I’m at my wit’s end when it’s trying to find a guy who cares about more than getting laid. Even when it seems like the guy is truly into me and we’ve invested a good chunk of time in dating and getting to know each other before we actually do sleep together, he almost always gets bored after getting what he wants and moves on to his next conquest. WTF? For now on, I’m no longer sleeping with any guy until I know he’s truly invested.
- It’s about time these guys learned the concept of respect. I don’t know about anyone else, but I’m sick to death of guys who think they can do the bare minimum to try and get me into bed. Paying the dinner check or opening my car door is only part of what it means to respect me. Showing me that he respects me as a person and isn’t just trying to get into my pants is something that takes time, and unfortunately because of the many BS guys I’ve encountered, it’s going to take a little longer before I’m going to be ready. He needs to be prepared to actually stick around.
- The guys who won’t wait aren’t worth it. If sleeping with a douchebag guy early on is going to weed him out of my life then I may as well hold off and wait until he shows some real effort because if he doesn’t, the outcome is the same either way. If he doesn’t have the patience to wait and earn that place next to me in my bed, he doesn’t deserve to be there at all.
- It’ll save me the heartache. It really is a crappy feeling when I think a guy truly likes me and I trust myself enough to take that next step, only to have him slow fade from my life by reciting a bunch of lame and BS excuses as to why he’s suddenly “so busy” or “needs to reschedule” our plans. I’m so over it. I won’t put myself in that position anymore. Step up and show me more or GTFO of my life.
- It’s time to make these guys work harder to earn me in that way. I’m sick of accepting a guy’s intentions at face value — he needs to truly show me from now on. I want to know I’m truly in his life the same way he’s in mine before I take that next step. Sex with someone I care about means something to me— it’s not just a casual affair. I want to meet his friends. I want to know about his family and where he comes from and how he came to be the man that he is. I want him to invest a piece of his heart too.
- I have other ways of satisfying myself. A guy isn’t the only way to keep myself satisfied. I have my own personal ways and I’m doing just fine on my own. I’ll sleep with a guy because I genuinely like him, not because I’m hard up for an orgasm.
- I’m sick of the sense of entitlement men have about sex. So many guys these days seem to think they have a sense of ownership over women’s bodies. It’s bad enough that public figures think they’re entitled to grope women, but that mentality truly is a testament to hookup culture. Some guys don’t even look at us as people anymore — we’re simply a body to fondle and play with to their liking. Screw that. I won’t stand for it.
- I’m worth far more than just a hookup. I’m amazing girlfriend material and I shouldn’t have to settle in the trenches of a meaningless hookup. Not only do I have my crap together in life but I also have a huge heart and I care for my partners sincerely. I won’t put my own wants and needs aside just for a night of passion. I’m not looking for just a night or two — I want forever.
- I refuse to perpetuate the problem in modern dating culture. I’m sorry to say it but I’m starting to realize the problem. It used to be that men had to actually work to impress us and these days, all they have to do is swipe a couple hundred faces in the comfort of their worn out Scooby Doo boxers until they can fool one of us just enough into believing that they’re actually good guys. I refuse to be that girl who made it too easy because once these guys seem to get a taste, they turn into hookup culture junkies.
- I want a guy who wants a real relationship and proves it. The guy who will actually wait and be okay with it is a guy who’s dating me for me and not because of what I can give him sexually. I’m sick of dating guys who are in and out of my life so easily. Most of the time, I haven’t even slept with them at all, which goes to show what they were really after. It’s about time I reach a new level in this messed up dating culture and it starts by truly testing a guy’s real intentions, even if it means more of them walk away sooner.
- I won’t settle for less than what I want anymore. I know that what I’m looking for is real and lasting love and I’m done with settling for less or investing my heart before a guy truly has invested his in return. I can’t be fooled anymore. I won’t be sleeping with any guy until he proves he’s truly invested in me and only me.
