I Won’t Wait For You — If You Don’t Want Me Now, You’ll Never Have Me

I know I’m an amazing catch and I expect the guy I date to recognize and value that from day one. I’m sorry, but I’m not going to sit around and wait for you to choose me. We either click or we don’t; you either make me a part of your life or you don’t. If not, I’m moving on.

  1. I won’t settle for something in-between. So much energy is wasted on trying to make things happen. I don’t want to think that you do like me but you’re just shy or taking your time to make your move. That’s ridiculous. I need you to be upfront about what you want right now so that if we’re not on the same page, I won’t be sitting around settling for less than I deserve. I can move on with my life instead and find someone who meets my standards. I want to save my energy for someone who wants me 100 percent without any doubts.
  2. My time is too precious for “maybe.” If you’re not making a move on me now, am I supposed to think “maybe” you will in future? No, that’s BS. I won’t waste my valuable time hoping that the situation will change in time. My present life is a treasure that I won’t waste for some possible future happiness that probably won’t even come.
  3. I’m not desperate. Why should I wait around for you? Who do you think you are, and are you really all that special? I can’t help but think that if you were amazing, you’d be snapping me up instead of putting me on ice. A guy worth my time won’t waste it.
  4. Your actions are loud and clear. It might seem crazy to delete you on Facebook and move on with my life, but I can tell from your actions that you’re not serious about me. You’re not eager to be with me and you’re taking too much time to make a move. That’s enough of a sign that it’s time for me to move on.
  5. Love is certain. When you love someone, you know you do. You don’t sit there going, “Hmm, I wonder if I should see that woman I love again.” Hell no. If you really felt things for me, you’d be completely in my life by now. As Maya Angelou said, “Love is many things. It’s varied. One thing it is not and can never be is unsure.”
  6. I want someone who knows what he wants. Maybe you don’t know how you feel or if you see something real between us, but that’s your problem. It’s not something I’m going to use as an excuse to sit and wait for you to make up your mind. I want someone who knows exactly what he wants — I have no desire to bring some confused AF loser into my life.
  7. If it’s a “no” from you, I’d rather be free. If you’re not giving me the sense that you want something real with me, then I’d rather be free to pursue other opportunities out there. I won’t let great guys pass me by because I’m tangled in my feelings for you. Hell no. You don’t deserve them if you’re not choosing to be by my side.
  8. I won’t be put on the back-burner. I want to be your priority, not an option. I’m not going to accept being one of the five women you’re currently chatting to but not committing to. No way. I’m either number one on your list of priorities or nothing at all.
  9. If you come for me later, I’ll never take you. Maybe you claim that you can’t be with me now due to bad timing or you’re not ready for something real. Whatever. If you come later and declare that you really want me, it’s too little and much too late. I will never feel that I was your first choice, so we’d be off to a bad start.
  10. You don’t know my worth. No matter what obstacles present themselves, when you find someone who amazes you, you want to be with them. You don’t waste time like a jerk. If you’d realized my worth, you wouldn’t have expected me to wait around. Luckily, I know my value, so I can walk away.
  11. You might be playing gamesMaybe you want to have lots of women on the side or you’re playing hard to get for some other reason. I don’t really care. I don’t like dating games because they only end up in hurt and misunderstandings. If you play them, you’re the one who’ll lose out — not me.
  12. I only come around once in your life. If I’m interested in you but you’re acting shady, I’m going to walk out of your life and never come back. Why? Because I’ve learned this the hard way: people don’t change and if they don’t appreciate what they have when they have it, then they don’t deserve a second shot with it. Besides, I’m a quality woman, a diamond. I’m not a rhinestone you can get just anywhere. Your loss, honey.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.