I Used To Worry About Not Having Enough Friends Until I Realized This One Important Thing

I’ve always struggled with wanting to make more friends. One was never enough; I need six besties to be content. Even then, it never left me feeling completely happy. Something was always nagging me, telling me it wasn’t good enough. Thankfully, I’ve since realized that one great friend is all I really need.

1. One great friend is better than six mediocre ones. Sometimes I find that when you have that many friends, a lot of them tend to be shallow or fake. You’re both just kind-of holding onto each other to say you’ve got a friend and so you’ll have someone to call when you want to go out. However, it’s never someone you’d consider pouring your heart and soul out to when you need to talk life out. If you can minimize the sometimes-meaningless friendships like that, you’ll be able to focus on the few true blue ones you have.
2. Having too many friends is hard to keep up with. I know I’m complaining, but seriously! You have to make sure to catch up with them regularly and will always have tons of texts from group chats to read. That can all be fun but extremely tiring at the same time, not to mention time-consuming. This is especially true if you’ve found that you have friends that are more of a burden than anything.
3. You never have to worry about leaving someone out. I think that might be my favorite part. You’ll never have to run through your checklist of people to text/call about going to the bar tonight because the list will be a lot shorter. That’s OK—when you remember you have your best group of gals around you, even if it’s small, that’s all you need.
4. It’s so much easier to make plans. When you’re not trying to figure out six girls’ schedules, it’s so much simpler to figure out what to do with your friends. There’s a much higher chance that you’ll all be free to go out on the same night and you’ll be able to more easily plan trips as well. It’s a lot less likely that someone won’t be able to come with and you won’t be stuck feeling bad about it.
5. We don’t have to be like everyone else. What I mean by this is that although you see pictures and posts with people who have tons of friends (or seem to), you don’t have to follow that. Don’t do something just because everyone else seems to be doing it. If you don’t have 15 girls to be in your bridal party, that’s OK. There’s no need to go out there and befriend every person you meet in order to do that. Obviously it’s completely fine if you genuinely have 15 great friendships, but what I’m saying is don’t feel like you have to measure up to what other people are doing. They aren’t you!
6. You can grow and nurture a friendship more if you’re not spreading your attention around. I think this goes along perfectly with number one. The fewer friends you have, the more time you’ll get to spend with the good ones in your life. I truly believe this will create more genuine relationships and you’ll be able to get a lot closer to each other.
7. There’s less of a chance of drama or petty fights. Have you ever noticed that the bigger the group of girls there is, the more drama that stems from it? I have. It’s a fact of life that not everyone is going to like everyone else, and that fact only becomes truer when you stick a ton of ladies together. Of course, I’m sure there are exceptions to this, but so far I haven’t found those.
8. Sometimes you’re not just made for a huge friend group. I think this one speaks near and dear to my own heart. I’ve been the one in that huge group of friends and I wouldn’t go back. I felt as though there was always something going on that was caused by there being too many girls in one group and I always wished I could’ve taken a few of my best friends from that group and walked away from it. It was insanely tiring to me.
9. You’ll still always have someone who’s there for you. I think this is the thing people worry about the most. When their friend group dwindles down, they feel this insane pressure to find more people to talk to. It’s just not necessary, though, if you’ve got a couple (or even one) best friend(s). You’ll know those ladies are there to listen to you and I think you’ll see how much more you appreciate that.