The Worst Times To Pick A Fight With Your Boyfriend

The Worst Times To Pick A Fight With Your Boyfriend ©iStock/a-wrangler

Being in a relationship with someone means you’re probably going to fight every once in awhile. No one agrees on everything 100 percent of the time, and sometimes you just need to let your feelings out so you can work through them and move on. That being said, there’s a time and a place to really get into it with each other, which is usually while you’re at home and have a little privacy. Unfortunately, fights sometimes happen at the most inopportune times and it’s hard to resist the urge to lose your crap. Here are the worst possible times to fight with your boyfriend:

  1. When you’re drunk. People say things they don’t mean when they’ve been drinking. Or they say things they have been wanting to say for a long time, but in an unnecessarily cruel way. Alcohol fuels irrational emotions, and you’ll probably end up saying something you regret.
  2. At someone’s birthday party. Even if you try your best to hide it, having a fight in the middle of someone else’s party is going to kill the vibe. People are going to notice the negative energy and you’ll have ruined the good time for people who didn’t come to a party to watch a screaming match.
  3. At a wedding. Weddings have a way of bringing out little insecurities you might have about your current relationship. You’ve been together four years, is he ever going to propose? But save it for later, because he’s not going to take you seriously if it seems like you’re just a jealous girl who can’t wait for her turn to be the beautiful bride.
  4. On your anniversary. You’re supposed to be celebrating the fact that you’ve made it through another year, so if you’d rather fight than enjoy your time with each other, maybe that’s a pretty clear sign that you shouldn’t be together.
  5. During brunch with your parents. Your parents want the best for you, so they’re always going to have their opinion about the people you date. If you’re fighting with your boyfriend right in front of them, they’re going to have something to say about it whether you like it or not. So if you don’t want to hear their two sense, save your arguments for after brunch when it’s just the two of you.
  6. On a trip. Some couples never fight. That is, until they’re supposed to be spending a relaxing vacation together and every little thing that annoys them about each other comes bubbling to the surface and they end up wasting their trip fighting about stupid things like how to fold the towels, and how many pairs of shoes is too many to bring to an all-inclusive beach resort.
  7. When one of you is out of town. Fighting over the phone is only going to leave you both frustrated and insecure about where you stand. Take the time away from each other to think about what you need to say and then you’ll be a lot more productive once you’re face to face.
  8. When he’s stressed about work. Unless it’s something that just cannot be ignored, it might better for everyone if you swallow your anger for a little bit and just be there for him. He probably isn’t going to respond well to you picking a fight when he has bigger things to worry about. So learn to pick your battles.
  9. When you’re not even mad about anything. Fighting just for the sake of fighting leads to toxic relationships that aren’t healthy for anyone. Some people just butt heads and there isn’t much that’s going to change that. If you find yourself getting annoyed and picking fights for no reason you might want to reconsider whether you’re right for each other.
  10. When it’s not your fight. If you’re the confrontational type, you’ve probably inserted yourself into fights that you had no business being a part of. Your guy doesn’t need you fighting his battles, so if it has nothing to do with you, keep it that way, and stay out of it.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to, contributes regularly to, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.