If He’s Worth My While, Things Like Double Texting Won’t Scare Him Away

Women are usually advised to wait for the guys we like to text us instead of making the first move to message them first because God forbid we come off as needy or “nuts.” Plus, when we do text, we should never EVER double text — that’s basically the cardinal texting sin and it’s ridiculous. I double text all the time and if a guy doesn’t like it, he’s obviously not worth my time anyway.

  1. If I have something to say, I’m going to say it. I’m not someone who beats around the bush in person, so why would I do that through text? I’m not going to wait for him to text me back and risk forgetting what I had to say. I won’t text him my life story, but if I want to say something, the forbidden double text isn’t going to hold me back.
  2. I don’t follow “rules.” I’m not going to let society tell me how to live or how to date. I don’t know why this has become taboo, but I’m calling BS. Why can’t I send a second text? I’m allowed to clarify, add something on, or even bring up a new topic. If a guy really likes me then he won’t care if I break the “rules.”
  3. I won’t jump to conclusions. If he doesn’t text back in a few hours, I’m supposed to assume he’s not interested? No thanks. I’m busy and I know the guys I date will be busy too. That doesn’t mean I’m going to hold off telling him something just so he won’t find me needy. I won’t jump to conclusions about the time it takes him to reply as long as he doesn’t assume that a double text means I’m high maintenance, needy, desperate or anything else.
  4. Guys double text too. Every guy who has ever genuinely liked me has double texted me. The guys who don’t are the ones who don’t really care. If men don’t have to live by these stipulations, why should I? If we’re interested in each other then we’re bound to double text from time to time. It just shows we actually like talking to each other, and there’s no crime in that.
  5. If a text scares him off, he could never handle a real relationship. Real relationships take hard work and commitment. Showing I’m invested in the relationship shouldn’t make a guy run for the hills. If he’s afraid of a double text, that’s a clear sign he’s afraid of commitment and I have no interest in dating someone that immature.
  6. My life doesn’t revolve around a man’s schedule. I need to send him a second text but wait, I can’t because he didn’t reply to the first one. Guess I’m out of luck. Yeah, I’m not going to play that game. I’m not going to wait around to text him just like I won’t wait around to spend time with him. He doesn’t get to call the shots. I’ll double text if I please.
  7. He should feel lucky that I’m thinking about him. Not once, but twice in one day? That should make him feel good. A guy should want to get a text from me. When I really like someone and my phone lights up with their name, I get a flutter of excitement. It’s nice to know that the person you’re thinking about is thinking of you too. It might be just a text, but I want a man who gets the same excited feeling about me.
  8. A double text is not coming on too strong. For goodness’ sake, I’m not asking the guy to marry me. I’m simply sending him a second text. The horror! Let’s stop being so dramatic here. A double text doesn’t mean I want to have his babies or even that I consider myself his girlfriend. There is no hidden meaning behind a double text. So can we all calm down, please?
  9. A guy who really likes me will be happy to hear from me. Being bothered by people you don’t like is obviously annoying, but hearing from someone you do like should make your day better. So if my double text is going to make a guy’s day worse, then that’s a pretty clear indication that he’s just not that into me.
  10. I won’t put stipulations on a relationship. We can’t see each other more than once a week. I need to downplay my feelings so that he’ll never know how much I really like him. I can’t text a man until he replies to my first text. To me, all those relationship regulations are complete and utter insanity. If I can’t just be me then I don’t want any part of a relationship, because I’ll never compromise whom I am just to play by the rules.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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