You Can Fall In Love & Have A Life, Too

When you think about being single vs. being coupled up, you tend to think that having a boyfriend means you say goodbye to everything else in your life. That’s a horrible way to live and kind of boring, too. Here’s your friendly reminder that you can fall in love and have a life, too:

  1. Love doesn’t always last forever. You know this, of course, but it’s worth remembering when you’ve finally met an amazing new girl or guy after spending so many nights alone with your couch and TV.
  2. You need to stay interesting. This is for your sake and your new partner’s, to be honest. If you’re all about them, then you’re not spending time doing the things you love and you won’t ever have anything fascinating to talk about.
  3. You can’t share everything. It’s all well and good for your S.O. to be your best friend, but don’t forget your actual best friends. You can’t watch reality TV or gossip over cocktails with your partner (well, you technically could, but it would be kind of weird) so make sure you’re still creating memories with your BFFs.
  4. He wants a life, too. It’s funny and kind of sad how it’s always the women who give up their entire lives for a new relationship and yet the guys still see their friends and watch sports and drink beer (I’m sure guys do other things, too, but it’s a mystery). You both need your own space and time apart in order to stay sane.
  5. Your people will hate you. You’re in your love bubble and you’re not thinking about your friends and fam, but they’re going to absolutely loathe you if you drop them for a new relationship. It’s just so uncool.
  6. Being joined at the hip never lasts. Think about any long-term happy couples that you know. They see their friends, they go to movies alone, they basically still exist without the other person. It’s normal, so you can follow in their footsteps, too.
  7. You have dreams and goals. It’s the worst thing ever when you stop writing or making plans for that big project that’s been in the works since forever. Don’t give up what you want just because you have a partner now.
  8. Being clingy is unattractive. You hate clingy people and want to run as far away as possible, so you can imagine how the other person feels when you become the clingy one. Just don’t do it.
  9. You love your career. You do, right? It’s OK to care about your job and want to work evenings and weekends sometimes even if you are in a relationship now. No point feeling guilty or weird about it.
  10. You’re your own person. You don’t love everything that your partner does and that’s totally fine. You want to see movies they hate and vice versa. You have TV addictions that need your full attention and you want some alone time, too. It’s all good.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.