Reminder: You Can’t Have A Relationship Via Text

You’ve been talking to a great guy for a while and you really like him. The problem? You never actually see him in person. Your entire “relationship” takes place over texting, and it’s driving you crazy. Don’t worry, because you’re not alone. Here’s why relationships that take place entirely through texting are the worst:

  1. You’re always let down by cancelled plans. Even though your entire relationship takes place over the phone, you don’t want it to be that way. You regularly try to make plans with him, but then they always end up falling through, and you’re left disappointed.
  2. You don’t know where he is or who he’s with. He could be anywhere in the world. He might even be flirting with you while he’s at another girl’s house, and you wouldn’t have any clue.
  3. You can’t touch him. Sure, you can sext him from morning until night. But all of that dirty talk is going to get you hot and heavy, and then you’ll have no one to touch, except yourself.
  4. You don’t know anything about his real personality. He might be cute and charming over text, but you have no idea if his real personality matches his texting personality. Some people are entirely different in person, so you might have zero chemistry if you two ever go out on an actual date.
  5. You have to wait for his responses. If he saw you in person, or at least talked to you over the phone, then you would hear his response to your questions in a flash. Of course, when you’re texting, it might take hours for him to respond to the risky message you sent.
  6. It’s easy for him to avoid you. If he wanted to, he could just drop out of your life at any time. You’re not fully committed in any way, so he wouldn’t feel all that bad about ghosting on you.
  7. He could take screenshots of private moments. When you talk to someone in person, they can tell their friends about the conversations you had, but they won’t have any proof of what you’ve said. Of course, when you’re texting, there’s always the risk of him screenshotting the messages or pictures you send.
  8. You have plenty of time to overanalyze. When you talk to someone face-to-face, you have to think on the spot. But when you’re texting, you have unlimited time to respond, which means you could torture yourself by trying to come up with the perfect thing to say next.
  9. You can’t hear his tone. Sometimes, you won’t be able to tell if he’s joking around with you or being serious. That’s how fights can start.
  10. The relationship can’t develop. It’s hard to take the next step with a man that you never actually see in person. If he really liked you, then he’d find the time to visit you.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.