You Don’t Need A Reason To Dump Him If You’re Unhappy, So Just Do It

You Don’t Need A Reason To Dump Him If You’re Unhappy, So Just Do It ©iStock/BraunS

Strong, independent women won’t put up with as much BS as other women do. You know that you deserve nothing less than the best, which is why you won’t sit around wondering if you should dump the dude that treats you poorly—you’ll do it without a second thought. After all, you know you’re worth more than what he’s giving you. While you certainly don’t need to explain your reasons for getting rid of him, these 10 things are perfectly good ones:

  1. He still believes in gender roles. Does he expect you to take care of the housework while he goes off to make money? Does he expect you to let him pay for every meal and sleep with him whenever he’s in the mood? If he makes you feel like a ’50s housewife, then you’re in the wrong relationship.
  2. He’s too needy. You can’t text him every five minutes when you have other responsibilities to handle. If he needs you by his side constantly, he has another thing coming. Your world doesn’t revolve around him, so his world shouldn’t revolve around you.
  3. He’s disrespectful. If he hits you with nasty words, or his actual fist, it’s time to head for the door. You value yourself too much to put up with someone who clearly has no clue who he’s talking to. If he doesn’t consider you his equal, then you should consider him your ex.
  4. He’s not independent. Independent women respect independent men. If you’re capable of taking care of yourself, then you should be with a man who’s just as self-sufficient. If he calls up his mom whenever he needs to borrow money or to have his laundry done, he’s not manly enough for a woman like you.
  5. He holds you back. If your man doubts that he’ll be able to help you get that huge house you’ve always wanted, it’s a red flag. His love for you should motivate him to do big things. If he doesn’t have faith in either of you, then you’ll never last.
  6. He’s a serial cheater. Independent women don’t put up with men who treat them poorly. If your boyfriend cheats on you, you won’t have time to listen to his BS reasoning behind it. You’ll already be looking at him through your rearview mirror.
  7. He doesn’t challenge you. Do you two have stimulating conversations? Do you go on dates to fascinating places? Independent women are happiest when they’re with someone who helps them learn. So find someone who challenges you to become a more intelligent person.
  8. He won’t express his feelings. You’re not a mind reader. You have no idea what he’s thinking, so if he refuses to tell you how he feels, you won’t be able to fix the problems that made him upset. That’s a recipe for a breakup.
  9. He’s selfish in bed. If he’s bad in bed, you can work with him. But if he’s just plain selfish in bed, you don’t need him. Your sex life and love life go hand in hand. If he won’t even try to please you in the bedroom, it won’t be long until he stops trying to please you outside of the bedroom.
  10. He doesn’t make you feel alive. You don’t mind being single, so there’s no reason for you to remain in a relationship that stunts your growth. If your man doesn’t make you want to become a better person, then he’s not the right one for you.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.