You Don’t Need To Date A Bunch Of Guys If You’ve Already Found The One

There’s something just a little bit scary about being with the same person for the rest of your life. If it it happens to be the only person you’ve ever been with, it’s downright terrifying. Not only will you never have another partner, but you’ll never have sex with anyone else. For some people, this is unthinkable. There’s so much to see and do in the world, and there are literally millions of guys to sleep with, yet you’re limited to only one? Well, here’s why that could actually be a good (and lucky) thing:

  1. Dating really sucks. When you’re getting ready for your very first date, you’re probably super excited. Your heart is racing, you’re worrying about what to wear, you’re looking forward to learning more about this guy, and maybe you’ll even have your first kiss. Oooohhh, exciting, right? Maybe, but the thing is that every single date you go on after that is going to suck, because you’ll soon realize that the world is filled with complete psychos who aren’t worth a second of your time.
  2. Your chances of ever getting a STI are way lower. With only one sexual partner, you won’t need to constantly worry about contracting something or getting tested (as long as you know he’s not sleeping with anyone else, either). An STI is some serious stuff. You don’t want that — especially one that will never go away.
  3. You’ll never worry there’s something wrong with you. If you’ve been single for a while, or you’ve had a ton of relationships that never last more than a few months, at some point you’ll start wondering whether it’s you. Maybe there’s a reason you can’t find a guy — are you not attractive enough? Not good enough? These are real ideas that go through your head when your love life is terrible, so it’s actually a really great thing if you find someone that quickly.
  4. You’ll be able to focus your time on other areas of your life. When you’re single, you spend a hideous amount of time trying to find someone. You dedicate entire nights to dates that end up as fails, you go to countless bars and clubs and get hit on by losers, and you spend hours formulating a single text that won’t make you sound desperate but will still show off your cute personality. It’s a ridiculous waste of time that could be spent doing anything else.
  5. You’ll have someone to share first experiences with. And just how cute is that? You guys can reminisce together about the first time ever that you kissed, had sex, went on a walk along the beach, binge-watched an entire season in a single day, whatever. Most people can’t do that, because their first experiences were with different people. And if they were to talk about it, there would be jealousy and bad feelings all over the place.
  6. You’ll never have an ex. And that’s amazing, because in a perfect world, we’d never have to worry about seeing an ex on a random trip to the grocery store. Just the possibility of running into someone you’ve seen naked before is enough to make you walk an extra mile to the other laundromat. You just don’t want to see his stupid face ever again. That’s how bad having an ex is.
  7. You won’t have to go through as many awkward situations. We all have horror stories or that person we really regret having been with. If you never have to go through that, you’re lucky. That’s why people who are in good relationships are happy and don’t regret not having slept around more. Finding “The One” just makes you stop giving a damn about all the potential experiences you could be having. After all, most of them would probably suck, anyway.
Chelsey is a freelance writer in NYC. She's pretty normal by today's standards, or at least that's what her mother tells her.