Letting the past go is never an easy task, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. By the time we reach our mid- to late twenties, many of us have at least one heartache under our belts and it makes moving forward without the thoughts of the past a difficult challenge. Whether we’re emotionally damaged or gloriously bitter about a relationship ending, there are very necessary reasons why we need to leave the past behind in order to walk forward towards something greater. These are the reasons you need to leave your crappy relationship history behind you for good.
- It’s unhealthy. It’s no surprise that holding on to a feeling of when you were hurting in the past is still going to affect and hurt you in the present. It’s almost as if you can sometimes feel exactly how you did in the moments the bad crap happened. Heartbreak can bring out some nasty side effects. You need to remember that the only thing that currently matters is you and how you’re doing now. Did you survive? Yes. Does it suck that you got hurt and things didn’t work out? Yes. Did you find ways to smile and laugh again? Yes. Focus on that and remember that you’re solid as a rock and that pressure makes diamonds, so shine bright.
- It’s holding you back. When we hold on to things that broke us down, we’re carrying an unnecessary weight around; and I’m not talking about the kind that you inherit from your Ben & Jerry’s and Netflix pity parties. I’m talking about the bricks you’re carrying in your heart leaving it impossible for another person to penetrate. There was a time before where you trusted and were open with your heart, and even though you’ve learned the hard way that you can be broken, you can also repair and be whole again. So start unloading and rebuilding.
- Not everyone is a loser. It’s easy to look at a new potential romance and cock your head to the side, wondering what kind of loser he is, because you’ve experienced it a time or two before. You need to know that not everyone will play out that way. There are amazing guys out there and one of them is perfect for you. You might need to date a few idiots before you get to your king, but remember that every failure is always a step closer to success. A bad date, a bad relationship; it doesn’t matter – you’re just getting closer.
- Letting go feels good. The most liberating feeling in the world is when you just stop caring about the things you used to give so many to. It’s like losing 10 lbs and fitting into your favorite dress again, only the dress in this instance is you, and you fit yourself perfectly once again.
- You’ll have more confidence. There’s a reason they say confidence is the sexiest thing you can wear, and it’s because with it, you attract the things you want like a magnet. When you’re confident within yourself, without any past relationship issues holding you back that make you question your self-worth, you will attract the best things life has to offer your way.
- You deserve it. You deserve a happy ending, and one that’s not hindered with ghosts of your past. You could hold on to those feelings, but why would you want to? When you finally let go of all the memories of your loves that failed and left you heartbroken, you’ll realize not only that you’re better off, but that something better is waiting for you. The end of something is always the beginning of something else and it starts with the beginning of a new you. So find ways to heal yourself, leave the past behind, and anticipate your next destination, because without the journey of up’s and downs, your arrival won’t feel as complete.
