12 Signs You Really Shouldn’t Be Dating Right Now

You’re single and ready to find love at whatever cost. You know you’re a catch and you’re sure you’re ready for “The One,” but as tempting as putting yourself out there might be, here are 12 signs you need to be on your own for now.

  1. Dating is your priority. You might want to meet someone new and awesome, but if you’re focusing so much on dating then it’s probably a good sign that you need to take a break from it, especially if it’s taking you away from the rest of your life. Stop taking dating so seriously!
  2. You think you know how dates will go. You meet someone cool online and they ask you out for coffee. Although part of you is excited to go, the other part is telling yourself how they’ll disappoint you and break your heart. Yikes. If you’ve been burned by love, you probably shouldn’t be dating right now until you heal.
  3. You’re distracted by love. If you’re always chasing the next love high, you have to stop and collect yourself. Ask yourself why you’re choosing to be distracted by the fun of a new relationship. Do you feel bored with your life? Do you feel like you don’t want to deal with your issues so you’re choosing other people and their issues? It’s worth canceling your date and taking some time to figure yourself out.
  4. You feel the pressure. Maybe you’re not that keen on dating right now but you feel pressure to be dating someone new. Perhaps that’s because societal pressure is getting to you, like if all your friends are swooning about their relationships. The thing is, dating because you feel you should is the worst reason to get out there. Don’t put yourself through that.
  5. You can’t seem to make yourself happy. So, you think you’ll find happiness in someone else. No way! That’s not going to happen. It’s going to make you more miserable. Take your time to find how to make yourself happy. That’s worth your time and energy and it’ll make you see that you actually don’t need love in your life right now.
  6. You talk about your ex. You can’t seem to stop yourself from mentioning your ex on a regular basis. You even started talking about him or her when you met someone new at the club a few days ago. Yikes. If they’re still on your mind to such a degree, it’s a sign you’re not ready to move on with someone else.
  7. You’re “meh” about dating. When you meet someone new, you don’t feel excited about dating them. Maybe they’re not the right person for you or you’re just not keen on dating right now, and that’s okay. Don’t force it. It’s better to listen to your gut on this one.
  8. You’re figuring yourself out. You might not be where you want to be just yet, or perhaps you’re still trying to process something big that happened to you. If you’re focusing on yourself, you really shouldn’t bring another person into your world. It’s just not healthy and can set your self-growth back.
  9. You’re comparing dates to your ex. If you hold your dates up to your ex’s standards, that’s not only unfair on them, it’s a clear sign you’re not ready to move on.
  10.  You’re seriously picky. There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want and holding yourself up to high standards, but if you’re choosing not to go on another date with someone because they don’t dress according to your tastes or they don’t have any tats, that can be a sign you’re pushing them away for a bigger reason. Maybe you’re just not really into dating them or anyone right now.
  11. You’re attracting casual daters. If it seems like every person you end up dating has an issue with committing and having a real relationship, that could be a sign you’re sending out the same signals. Maybe take a break from dating for a while, eh?
  12. You don’t really know how to communicate. Maybe you’re engaging in unhealthy communication habits right now, such as yelling or sulking instead of expressing your feelings, or just shutting people down without giving them a chance to express themselves. That’s really not a good thing for any relationship and will just cause you unnecessary drama. Work on yourself before getting back out there.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.