You Can’t Please Everyone In Life, So Don’t Try To

You Can’t Please Everyone In Life, So Don’t Try To ©iStock/themacx

We should be spreading happiness as much as possibly, but too often we find ourselves desperately trying to please people and sacrificing ourselves in the meantime. That’s why we should always be our authentic selves, no matter who doesn’t like it. Here’s why you just can’t please everyone in life:

  1. People can be fickle. Have you ever edited a project for your boss and then he decides that the original idea was better? Yeah, that. At work, it’s your job to fulfill certain duties but in your personal life think about what you actually owe people… and what you don’t.
  2. You don’t have time for that. If you stop to consider the opinion of your boyfriend, mom, and best friend every time you go to order a dress or choose a paint for a bookshelf you’re really going to slow yourself down. You know what you want.
  3. Bratty opinions shouldn’t be given weight, anyway. Sometimes it feels like the most opinionated people around are the ones who want to say something negative or assert their dominance where it’s not asked for, don’t you think? Funny how that works.
  4. Everyone has different opinions. All of your friends drive different types of cars, so if you ask them all for their opinions about what your next car will be, you’re going to get different answers.
  5. No one knows what’s best for you besides you. Even when people are have good intentions, they can’t ever really know what’s best for you based on your inner thoughts and journey. Even when we’re open books, there are still things that other people will never know about us.
  6. If you’re pleasing everyone, you probably aren’t pleasing yourself. If no one has any opinions about what you’re doing, you might not be doing much of anything. Don’t play small to be agreeable when playing big is good for your soul.
  7. Your time commitments can overlap. The boss wants you to work over the weekend, your sister best friend wants you to babysit, your cousin wants you at her birthday party, and you want to go for a hike. Sometimes schedules permit lots of plans, sometimes they don’t, and choices must be made.
  8. What you want might change. We change our goals as we grow and our opinions as we learn, so your life might please one person now and someone else later.
  9. People are selfish. We’re all selfish to a certain degree — we’re supposed to be. That’s why we can get pressured to have children and to never have children by different people at the same time.
  10. Your happiness comes first. Back to that selfish thing… sometimes it’s necessary to shut out the world and look inward because we can never totally be happy if we don’t know what’s in there and how to live our best life.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog