You’re Amazing — And Here Are 14 Signs You Might Be TOO Amazing For Him

You might like him, but are you too good for him? Does he even deserve having you as his girlfriend? Here are some signs that you’re wasting your time on him and need to set your sights higher:

  1. He’s got the “hot guy” syndrome. He’s handsome and gets loads of attention when he walks into the room, but that’s really all he’s got going for him. The “hot guy syndrome” is when gorgeous guys ride on their good looks but don’t have much else to offer. Soon, you get used to their good looks and realize you need more substance than sexiness to make a relationship work.
  2. He’s playing around with you. He doesn’t keep his word, he leaves you guessing, he’s not consistent in his behavior. Um, are you a puppet on a string? Hell no. If it feels like dating him is walking a tightrope without a safety net, you’re with someone who’s not doing you justice.
  3. Your friends say he’s wrong for you. If your friends all agree that you’re wasting your time on this guy, you should really think why that might be. Maybe he’s rude or doesn’t seem like boyfriend material. Remember that sometimes friends can see what your partner’s really like better than you can because they’re completely objective.
  4. He kills your confidence. You don’t really feel all that confident around him. Or maybe since you started dating him, you’ve felt like you’re not happy with your looks, your career, your goals, your friends… If he’s bringing you down, this will show in how you feel about yourself.
  5. He’s not proud to have you. He might be really insecure but instead of being thrilled that he got such a catch, he’s actually doing the opposite — he’s coming across as embarrassed to be with you when he’s really envious of you. You need to be with someone who is thrilled to have you, not toxic because of their own issues!
  6. He’s not on your level. This isn’t about looks or intelligence — it’s about where he’s at in his life. If you feel like you’re more of a responsible adult than he is or you have way more ambition than he could ever dream of, you’re going to clash. You need someone who’s on the same level as you are because he’s more likely to understand and support you.
  7. He doesn’t appreciate you. He’s got this amazing girlfriend — you! — but he’s acting like you’re just one of the many things on his list. You’re definitely not number one in his life even though you’re making him your priority.
  8. He’s a drama king. His life is so dramatic, it could be a lame soap opera. Maybe the excitement of it is what first attracted you to him, but that gets old really quickly. Soon the excitement becomes exhausting and stressful. If a guy’s giving you more reason to stress than feel blessed, he’s got to GTFO of your life.
  9. His life is all over the show. He just doesn’t have his act together. He’s always out partying, drinking, losing his job and he wouldn’t know what self-growth is if it hit him between the eyes. He’s too much of a man-child. You need someone who’s got their life sorted just like you do, otherwise, you’ll never grow as a couple.
  10. You have to pay for everything. You’re always the one pulling out your wallet when you’re having dinner or going out. It’s starting to feel like the man is a cheap jerk who’s got no shame in eating up all your financial resources. So lame. You deserve a man who’ll treat you well and meet you halfway.
  11. You don’t know where you stand. You’re not sure if he’s really committed or interested in being serious with you because he’s giving you mixed messages. Meanwhile, you’re ready to jump into a committed relationship with him. It’s not fair and he’s clearly not making as much effort as you are.
  12. You don’t feel all that happy around him. You know that you’re the only one who’s responsible for your happiness, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be with a partner who makes you happy. You deserve that! If things are “meh” around him or you find yourself feeling a bit down after seeing him, something’s wrong. You need a guy who’ll make your smile a priority or what’s the point of being with him?
  13. He embarrasses you. You don’t like letting him hang with your best friends or meet your co-workers because he embarrasses you. He might be rude, insensitive, look shabby or steal the spotlight during conversation. Whatever the case, if you’re not proud to be standing beside him, he’s way too small for you.
  14. He’s not satisfied with his life. It’s a problem if you get with a guy who’s not happy in his own life because then you could end up with a boyfriend who’s moody, irritable and depressed all the time. It could also cause him to hang onto the relationship because it’s the only thing he’s got going for him. A relationship can’t be healthy unless both parties are happy, complete individuals. If you are but he’s not, then he’s just going to bring you down. You’re too amazing to let that happen.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.