You’re Better Off Single Than With A Guy Who Does These Things

You’re Better Off Single Than With A Guy Who Does These Things ©iStock/GlobalStock

At a certain point in your single life, you have to admit that no one’s perfect and that if you want a relationship anytime soon, you can’t expect guys to act exactly the way you want. But there’s still plenty of behavior that you really don’t need to put up with just for the sake of not being alone. You’re honestly better off single than with a guy who does these things:

  1. Reschedules plans. Sure, every once in a while, stuff comes up — you have to stay late at the office, your BFF is having a crisis — but for the most part, dates are pretty sacred. What’s the point of going out with someone if you’re never going to see them? If a guy claims he’s too busy for you and always cancels dates, then he’s clearly not ready for a relationship and you shouldn’t waste your time.
  2. Gives you false hope. Oh, did you really think you were heading to Bermuda with this guy next month? Nope. He’s taking his brother. Did you think he was going to ask you to move in with him at Christmas? No, he’s buying his own condo. It’s super shady if a guy is always making you believe in a future that just isn’t going to happen. Save yourself the heartache and plan your own future.
  3. Brings up his ex regularly. You can’t compete with good memories. If your new boyfriend won’t stop talking about his ex-girlfriend, you know it’s time to get out. He’s never going to think of you the same way. Why would you want to be with someone who’s not even over their last breakup?
  4. Hates emotion. What’s up with guys who think they’re above expressing themselves? It’s like an epidemic or something. If your boyfriend will never tell you how he feels about anything, it’s pretty likely that he’ll never say how he feels about you, either. That’s totally fine if you’re not into emotional intimacy… but you probably are.
  5. Makes you feel bad. Of course, only you can make yourself feel crappy, but sometimes someone else lights the fire. You’re supposed to love this guy and he’s supposed to make you happy. If he doesn’t, get rid of him. Simple.
  6. Hates your friends and family. Not everyone can get along all the time, but your BF basically signs a contract that he’s going to be nice to the people you love. If he acts like a jerk and can’t be bothered to get to know them, let alone be civil, you should show him the door.
  7. Laughs at your dreams. Some people just didn’t get the memo that you’re supposed to support others and believe in them. If your boyfriend doesn’t support your dreams, whether you’re striving for something in your career or getting healthy, then why are you even with him?
  8. Wastes your time. You’re in control of your life and your calendar… but all that goes out the window when you’re in a relationship. There are so many crappy ways a guy can waste your time. Cooking dinner for him? Yeah, he’s going to be two hours late. Waiting for him to arrive at your birthday party before bringing out the cake? He never shows. You are so much better off on your own than with a guy who doesn’t respect you or the relationship. It may suck now, but in the long run you’ll be super grateful you stood up for yourself.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.