If You’re Intimidated By My Independence, You’re Weak AF

If You’re Intimidated By My Independence, You’re Weak AF ©iStock/Portra

You may have grown up thinking that you’ll always be the head honcho just because you have a penis, but it’s not going to work that way with me; if you want to have a relationship with me, you’ll have to accept my independence. If being with a strong woman intimidates you, it doesn’t say a damn thing about me — what it does say is that you’re simply weak AF.

  1. You shouldn’t need to lower my self-esteem to boost yours. I’m proud to be a strong woman, and my accomplishments define me. I wake up happy every day because I’m bossing life like I always dreamed I would. If you feel the need to take that away from me in order to feel like a big strong man, there’s something wrong with you. My self-esteem comes from within, and I don’t need to degrade anyone else in order to feel good about myself; if you’re really as strong as you claim to be, you should be able to do the same thing.
  2. The 1950s called and they want their misogyny back. Once upon a time, women like me were uncommon, and that makes me truly sad for those generations. They didn’t know how strong women could be because we never had the opportunity; the moment we had the chance to prove ourselves, we changed the world forever. If you still long for a world where you’re favored just for having a penis and not expected to actually prove your worth, it speaks volumes about your own inner strength (or lack of it).
  3. You should be proud to have a strong partner. Why would you want to be with someone who needs you to take care of her 24/7? Wouldn’t that just make life more difficult for you? You should strive to be with a woman like me because I’ll pull my own weight and make our relationship a true partnership. If a completely equal relationship scares you or makes you uncomfortable, you’re weak and should probably just stay single.
  4. If you want power over me, it means you don’t respect me. The best long-term relationships have no power dynamic, meaning neither party has an upper hand over the other, and that’s the way it should be. If you strive to control me, I’ll take that as a great big red flag that you’re not only weak and insecure but you also lack respect for me. I have no desire to control you because I’m already completely secure in myself; you should be able to achieve that too.
  5. You should be bossing up life independently too. Instead of fretting about my independence, you should be busy bossing up your life and career like I am. It’s 2016, and we should be able to have a terrific relationship while we both achieve our separate dreams and support each other. I’m strong enough to achieve my own goals while still being invested in a relationship; there’s no excuse for you.
  6. I’m opinionated, outspoken, and I’m awesome because of it. Whoever said that women should be seen and not heard was both a loser and a coward. My outspoken demeanor is a large part of my independent attitude, and you should appreciate it because it’s what makes me truly myself. If you can’t handle it, you’re clearly not strong enough to date a real woman.
  7. I’m the kind of role model you should want for your future kids. If you want kids, you should take into consideration what kind of person you want as their mother. Don’t you want their most prominent female role model to be someone who’s strong and successful? If you’d rather be with someone who’s weak and controllable (and teaches your kids to be that way too), there’s something seriously wrong with you.
  8. Life will never be dull with me. The best thing about being with an independent woman is that life will never be boring. I get up every day and smack life around like it’s my bitch (because it is). If you’re strong enough to handle it, your life will be the most amazing adventure with me. If you’re too scared to take on a future with someone as strong as me, go find yourself a Stepford wife who will gladly spend her days under your thumb and never call you on your weakness; it’ll be your loss, because my life will be awesome no matter what.
Anna Martin Yonk is a freelance writer and blogger in sunny North Carolina. She loves hanging out with her goofy husband and two rescue dogs and can be found at the beach with a drink in hand whenever possible. You can find her on Instagram @mrsyonkdogmom or on her Facebook page.