If You’re Not Looking For Anything Serious, Go Away

There are plenty of people out there looking for casual flings, and while I used to be one of them, I’m not anymore. I want real love, but it’s hard to find a guy who’s looking for the same thing. I may have settled for less commitment in the past, but this is why I now refuse to date a man who isn’t searching for something real:

  1. I want the guy who isn’t afraid of relationship labels. I’ve been dating long enough to know that casual flings and almost relationships don’t interest me whatsoever. I want to be someone’s girlfriend, someone’s hope for forever. If you’re not interested in having me around for the long term, just leave me alone and don’t bother trying to convince me to settle for less. I’m looking for a man who isn’t scared of my real intentions.
  2. I won’t be part of a rotation of girls you already have. I’ve been blindsided by being part of a flock of women on speed dial, and I’m done with being a mere player on the field. I expect and deserve to be the only girl on your arm if you start something with me, and I don’t get why dating has shifted into a place where that’s asking for too much. If you’re not a one-at-a-time type of guy, then I’m not your girl.
  3. I’m not the late-night hookup type of gal. I’ll never be enticed by a late-night visit unless you’re fully my boyfriend and a serious part of my life. I don’t just open my front door for anyone. Once I’m settled into my lady cave for the night, the bra is off, and my face is exfoliated, you’d better be bringing something real to the table if you expect an invitation inside after hours.
  4. I refuse to settle for less than what I want. No matter how much any guy tries to convince me that they like me but can’t give me what I’m truly looking for, I won’t stick around to test my chances and risk getting my heart broken. I know what I want because I know myself deeply, and my experiences have taught me what I can and can’t stand. I want the guy who’s on my level mentally and knows that he wants an amazing person by his side for the long haul.
  5. My time is valuable. I’ve wasted a ton of time on guys who were just stringing me along or weren’t serious about dating me, so I’ll be damned if I let history repeat itself. I know that the life I’m living is busy AF, so I don’t have time to waste on guys who aren’t willing to step up to the plate to be with me 100 percent.
  6. I’m worth more than the casual spot in someone’s life. I pride myself on the woman I am, and I know I bring a lot to the table to be someone’s one and only. Women like me don’t settle for casual for good reason: We’re once-in-a-lifetime, and we don’t need to settle for playing the fool when we’re capable of sitting on the throne.
  7. I know what I want out of life. I’m ready for those next exciting steps. I’ve done the “party girl” thing. I’ve done the “casual” thing. I’ve had my fun and gotten my act together, and now I’m at the point where I’m ready to conquer love, too. I’m prepared to embrace a serious relationship and everything that comes with the journey, step by step.
  8. I’m ready for something real and long lasting. I’m done having short, pointless relationships just to keep my loneliness away. I learned a long time ago that having one special person is infinitely better than having multiple casual guys in my rear view mirror. To me, there’s no point in wasting my energy on part-time BS when I want full-time stability.
  9. If you want me, you need to earn me. If you want to be the guy next to me, you need to take my terms and conditions seriously. I’m not asking for too much when I say I want someone who really wants me for all of me and not just to fill a temporary void. I want the guy who goes all-in, the one who will call me his girlfriend proudly and start building a real life with me. If any of this stuff scares you off, I’m not looking for you.
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