So What If You’re Single AF? The Most Awesome Women Usually Are

After spending a lot of time being super single, you might start wondering why you haven’t found the right guy yet. You might start to think that it’s something you’re doing wrong, but actually, it might be because of what you’re doing RIGHT. This is why so many of the world’s most amazing women stay single for so long:

  1. They’re busy. A lot of the best women in the world have a lot going on in their lives. Between balancing a career, hobbies, and a social life, they just don’t have time for a relationship. They might go a long time without finding a partner who can handle their crazy schedules, but they never feel like their life is missing something.
  2. They’re independent. Even if they want a boyfriend, awesome women definitely don’t need a man to complete them. They have their act together, and they know how to take care of themselves. They never feel the need to date a man “just because” — they can make it through life just fine on their own.
  3. They’re intimidating. The strength of an amazing woman is something truly awe-inspiring, and a lot of guys simply can’t handle it. They’re intimidated by women who stand up for themselves and know what they want out of life. While it sucks to know that so many men are practically scared of them, awesome women can’t be bothered to fret about all the weak men in the world who don’t want to date them.
  4. They’re focused on themselves. Who needs a man to love you when you love yourself? That’s the mindset that truly great women have. They care about others, but they know the importance of taking care of themselves first. Some guys can’t handle the idea that they’ll never be a woman’s number-one priority, but honestly, that’s their own problem.
  5. They refuse to settle. Awesome women have high expectations for the men they date, and they have no intention of lowering them no matter how much they may like a guy. They have no problem leaving a man behind if he’s not willing to give them what they need in a relationship… even if it means staying single for that much longer.
  6. They know their worth. When you know what you bring to the table, you’re not going to accept less than you deserve. Badass women may ask a lot from the men who want to date them, but only because they’re willing to give the same in return. They often find themselves waiting for a man who can measure up to them, but that’s fine — they know that accepting any less would be doing themselves a disservice.
  7. They take no crap. Lots of women stay single for so long because they know how to stick up for themselves. They prefer to leave a relationship the moment it shows signs of being toxic rather than waiting around and hoping things will change. They know better than to be doormats, and they’ll always prefer to be single rather than dealing with douchebags.
  8. They’re smart. Awesome women can smell BS from a mile away, and they know better than to step in it. They can almost always tell when a guy is bad news, so they’ll keep their distance rather than giving him a chance he doesn’t deserve. It might mean that they’ll end up alone for a bit longer, but they’re wise enough to know that it’s better than messing with a guy who’s throwing up all kinds of red flags.
  9. They’re mature. Lots of single women out there simply have enough experience to be able to handle relationships and dating the right way. Unfortunately, they often attract the kind of guys who haven’t gotten to that level yet. They often end up butting heads with the guys they date because of this, leading them to lead the single life for even longer instead of coupling up.
  10. They’re always growing. Awesome women got to where they are because they didn’t stop at just being “good.” They kept transforming and working to better themselves, and they have no intention of stopping now. This powerful mindset turns them into remarkable people, but it can also lead to them outgrowing many of their potential suitors. They’ll eventually find someone who can keep up with them, but for now, they’ll just have to be patient.
Averi is a word nerd and Brazilian jiu jitsu brown belt. She's also a TEFL/TESOL-certified ESL teacher and an equine enthusiast. Originally from Pennsylvania, she lived in Costa Rica for a while before moving to Australia. In addition to her work as a writer and editor for Bolde, she also has bylines with Little Things and regularly writes for Jiu-Jitsu Times.

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