You’re Single Because You Haven’t Found A Guy Who Does These Things

Sure, you’re single, but it’s not because you’re too picky, hard to love, or emotionally unattainable. It’s because you haven’t found a guy worthy enough to commit to. You’re not just looking for someone to date, you’re looking for someone to hopefully build a life with. That’s why you’re being cautious about who you get involved with! Eventually, you’ll settle down — but only when you find a guy who does these things:

  1. He confides In You. Your conversations go way below the surface. He shares things with you. His secrets, goals, and fears — things he wouldn’t tell anyone else. He’s comfortable and he trusts you, so he tells you everything. This is exactly how it should be.
  2. He introduces You To The People He Loves. He brings you around his friends and family — that means he’s serious about the relationship. He doesn’t keep you a secret and he’s not hesitant about introducing you as his girlfriend. The people closest to him know who you are and they know how much he likes you. How? Because he’s taken the time to tell them.
  3. He’s Open With His Feelings. He doesn’t play games because he’s not in middle school. He tells you how feels instead of making you guess. He won’t purposely wait to answer your text or pretend like he’s interested in another girl to make you jealous. He doesn’t care if you think he’s “too needy.” He’s genuine — if he wants to be with you, he’s going to be with you.
  4. He Can Be Emotional. There’s nothing wrong with an emotional guy. Maybe you don’t want someone who’s constantly crying, but you want a guy who can be vulnerable — someone who can put their emotions out there, without fear of looking weak. A vulnerable guy is a brave man because he’s strong enough to show you how much he really cares.
  5. He shows PDA. He shouldn’t be groping you in public (unless that’s what you like). But, he should be comfortable enough to touch you in front of other people. Holding your hand, touching your back, giving you a quick peck — these are things he instinctively does because he wants to be close to you… physically and emotionally.
  6. He Takes The Time To Get To Know You. He knows more about you than your love for reality television. He’s taken the time to get to know personal things about you, like your passion for helping people and how you’d love to live in Paris one day. He doesn’t just know fun facts, he knows the characteristics of who you are.
  7. He advertises The Relationship. If he’s an avid social media user, there should be pics of you on his Instagram and Facebook. Not to mention, you should definitely be a key person in his Snapchat stories! He shouldn’t be afraid to post pics of you on social media. In fact, he should want to. A guy who advertises his relationship is a guy who wants the world to know he’s happy and proud of the person he’s with!
  8. He Discusses The Future. He’s more than willing to plan a trip next month and ask you to spend Christmas with his family. He sees you in his future and he isn’t afraid to let you know that. He’s including you in his life and it’s because he wants you to be a part of it. Planning a future with you doesn’t make him nervous, it makes him excited.
  9. He’s His Complete Self. The way he acts with you is the same way he acts with everyone else. He’s not nice to you, a jerk to a random stranger, an idiot to his friends, and a saint to his parents. No, he stays the same person… all the time. Even when he’s drinking, he doesn’t turn into a guy you suddenly don’t recognize. A consistent personality is an important trait in a SO.
  10. He Allows You To Be Yourself. Being your complete self with someone is hard to do unless you fully trust that person. He has to make you feel comfortable and loved for all the right reasons in order for you to remove your walls and show him who you really are. If he does this, he’s the real deal.
  11. He tells You He Loves You. A guy who tells you he loves you is rare. Sometimes, guys are too shy or nervous to say those three words. They don’t want to come off as “too invested” in the relationship. So, instead of telling you they love you, they wait… for you to say it first. If he can say he loves you, without knowing you reciprocate that feeling, he’s a keeper.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.