8 Relationships You Should Never Be In — They’ll Never Go Anywhere

8 Relationships You Should Never Be In — They’ll Never Go Anywhere ©iStock/Steve Cole Images

So you’ve been dating for awhile, but you still haven’t found a boyfriend. Ugh! It can be super frustrating to constantly be let down by guys, but you shouldn’t jump into a relationship just for the sake of it because you’ll end up seriously regretting it. When it comes to these 8 relationships, you’re better off on your own.

  1. Hot Sex, Cold Shoulder. You want each other constantly and have sex every time you get together, but when the sex is done… silence. There’s no real conversation or intimacy, and you realize the only place you connect is in the bedroom. If you try to have a conversation, it seems forced and boring. Sure, you might find yourself missing the amazing nights in the sheets, the shower, the laundry room, the closet, etc. but don’t get trapped in this shallow relationship or you’ll soon need an escape plan.
  2. The Affair. You fall in love with a guy who isn’t really ever yours. He calls you his girlfriend, but he already has one of those (or maybe even a wife). Because of this, you only spend time with him on weekends or late nights — just a few stolen moments, sweet nothings, until he’s gone. This relationship will never be fully realized and you’ll always get the short end of the stick. He just wants to have his cake and eat it too and you’re better off without him.
  3. Abusive. If a man abuses you emotionally with verbal attacks and manipulations or physically harms you, get away and never go back. Never. That’s it.
  4. Breakups to Make-ups. Breakups in this relationship seem like a routine, almost like they’re on a schedule. You two call it quits so often that your friends stop taking you seriously when you say you’re done with him. These on again, off again relationships can be like a vicious roller coaster. It may be hard to get off, but once you do, don’t step back on. He might come back because that’s what he’s used to doing, but when he slowly limps back to you, just run as fast as you can.
  5. The Business Deal. This relationship is built on financial convenience. Maybe he’s a sugar daddy who gives you money while he receives the pleasure of having a beautiful girlfriend, or maybe he’s a hot guy who needs some place to stay and you’re seconds away from becoming a cat lady destined to be alone forever. Whatever the setup, this relationship isn’t built on a solid foundation of compatibility and love. Stay away.
  6. The Outright A-hole. This guy is a pure jerk. He flirts with other women in front of you, always ditches you to hang out with his friends, lies about stupid things, insults you, forgets important dates… you get the picture. Most a-holes come off as charming and funny at first, but over time the real him comes out. This is the type of guy that thinks going down on you is some sort of apology. Don’t be suckered in by this cunning cunnilinguist. Oral sex is not a way to say sorry, and you deserve better.
  7. The Good, Bad and Ugly Guy. He’s one of the sweetest guys you’d ever met, but you aren’t physically attracted to him and the sex was awful. In this relationship, you often felt unfulfilled. Sure, sex isn’t everything, but it has an impact on a relationship. In dating, women are often told to see past looks and appreciate other features a man has to offer, while physical attractiveness is paramount for men. Just because you’re a woman doesn’t mean you should have to sacrifice good sex or attraction. If you find yourself perilously close to this situation, appreciate that he’s a nice guy and let him down easy.
  8. The Situationship. You hang out all the time, laugh at each other’s jokes, meet each other’s friends, travel together and have clothes at each other’s place… but never say the “R” word: relationship. He says things like, “I’m not ready to commit” and “I think the label ruins everything,” or maybe “I don’t want to hold you back if you meet someone better” and “I’m not the boyfriend-type.” This seems to be the most common type of “relationship” among millennials dating today. He gets all the perks of a relationship without any of the commitment. Since he doesn’t have the stomach to be your real boyfriend, don’t keep feeding him your feelings.
Ashlee is a blogger, poet, and screenwriter. Based in Texas, she creates work that is raw, beautiful and powerful.