10 Kinds Of Guys You Can Never Win With, So Steer Clear Of Them

Nothing’s worse than someone who’s so up their own ass, they refuse to listen to anyone’s thoughts or opinions if they’re not identical to their own. If you’re actually dating a guy like this, beware — chances are, you’ll never get them to see their own faults or win an argument with them, regardless of how wrong they might be.

  1. The Zealot This is a guy who has rabid views on a certain topic matter – usually religion or politics. He’s such an over-the-top supporter of meeting anything you say with irrational arguments, shouting, or derision. To make matters worse, he might even use his “cause” as a reason to justify treating you poorly, using you, or even publicly humiliating you. Nobody has time for that stuff. Don’t try to argue with someone who isn’t rational, because he won’t listen to you regardless of what proof you offer.
  2. Mr. Gaslighter Much like the Zealot, no amount of proof will ever be enough to get Mr. Gaslighter to admit any wrongdoing. In fact, even when he’s confronted with evidence, he’ll tell you that “it never happened.” He’ll do everything and anything in his power to make you feel nuts, and appear nuts to other people. If you notice that your potential date is calling all his exes crazy, chances are that you’re dealing with a gaslighter. Don’t stick around with this one – he won’t let you win because he wants to control you.
  3. Mr. “Poor Me” Some guys are just weak, insecure, sniveling little brats. This is the case with Mr. “Poor Me.” Nothing he does is his fault. Ever. If he acts like a petulant child, it’s your fault. If you balk at the fact that he wants you to financially support him, you’re “only out for his money.” No matter how good you are to him, he’ll whine. You just can’t win with a loser like that, and why would you want to?
  4. Mr. Oedipus Complex There’s nothing wrong with a man who has a close but healthy relationship with his mother, but there’s definitely something wrong when his mother makes all of his decisions for him. Simply put, a grown man should not have his mom ruling his life. It’s not healthy, and it’s a sign that he’ll always put her first. Moreover, his mom will most likely not want to give up the control she has on her son, which will make you her #1 enemy. Don’t try to engage in this tug of war – Mommy will always win.
  5. The Misogynist Some members of the male species really, truly hate women. Despite what all the romantic comedies you watch may suggest, you cannot cure a man of his bitterness and hatred towards women. Trying to show him that not all women are bad will result in him using you, hurting you, or coming up with other reasons to hate you. He won’t believe anything you say. Instead of trying to deal with a man who hates you because you’re female, do yourself a favor and seek out a man who will actually be good to you.
  6. The Empty Promiser Quite a few guys out there have learned how to act by watching politicians closely. They’ll openly admit wrongdoing and promise to change, but they’ll never follow through. If you remind them of their promises, they’ll call you a nag or get annoyed. It’ll always happen “later,” and “later” quickly turns into never. If this is a regular pattern, you’re best off leaving. Even if he does change, do you really want to stay with a guy who needs that kind of a wake up call to actually keep a promise?
  7. The Fantasizer Nothing is quite as disturbing as dating a guy who’s already decided that he knows your personality, your goals, and your history after talking to you for five minutes. With these guys, they aren’t really grounded in reality. If you tell them something that doesn’t jive with their idea of who you’re supposed to be, they either won’t believe it or they’ll flip out. Either way, it’s creepy and it’s abundantly clear that he’s cuckoo for cocoa puffs. Until this guy gets a good dose of medication, it’s best to run away… far, far away.
  8. The Guy Who’s Watched One Too Many Romantic Comedies Mainstream media tends to warp what we expect to see happen in relationships, and it can lead to guys who don’t seem to understand that he can’t force attraction. It’s that second kind of guy that you can’t win with. If you turn him down, he’ll think he just needs to try harder. If you tell him to leave you alone because he’s creepy, he’ll wonder why following you around and explaining to you that he isn’t a creep isn’t working out well. It’s amazing how brainwashed guys can get if they watch The Notebook one too many times. Don’t bother trying to explain things to guys affected by rom-com fever. They’re often too brainwashed to listen.
  9. The Guy Who Doesn’t Care If He’s In The Wrong Though most people will be really horrified when they realize that they’ve done something terrible, there are some people who don’t care — unless it comes with consequences. With people who aren’t capable of guilt, explaining why what they did was wrong will not result in anything good. It won’t result in closure or an apology, so don’t bother trying to get remorse out of someone who’ll never be remorseful. You have better things to do.
  10. The Total Idiot It may be rare, but there are some guys out there who are just plain stupid. It’s not that they’re trying to control you, or that they are trying to be malicious in this case. It’s that they aren’t bright enough to understand why you’re upset. In this case, they’re too dumb and/or selfish to get it. There’s usually not much that can be done in this case, unfortunately.
  11. Mr. Always Right There are quite a number of people who simply can’t handle the idea that they may be mistaken, and will get angry if you contradict them. Even if they finally admit they’re wrong, they’ll make sure you end up paying for it in one way or another. These guys are just a major headache. The bottom line is that if a guy is always right, the right choice is to dump him before you run out of aspirin.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

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