10 Reasons Women Only Get Sexier With Age

There’s an unfortunate, but prevalent myth that women lose their beauty as we get older, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Sure, we may get a few wrinkles and a slower metabolism, but this is why each passing day turns us into sexier versions of ourselves:

  1. We get smarter. Being “older and wiser” may sound cliche, but it’s true. There’s something undeniably sexy about a woman who has a good head on her shoulders, and lots of us develop that as we age. Naivety may be attractive to immature guys who just want to get laid, but grown men love a lady who understands the world around her.
  2. We learn what we want. As the years go by, we stop having to guess what we’re aiming for in everything from our careers to our friendships to our love lives. Rather than fumbling around in the dark for a goal, we set our sights on what we want and make a beeline for it. You don’t have to be in the market for love to see how attractive that is.
  3. We get more confident. The things that once made us second-guess ourselves give way to self-assurance as we age. Time and experience prove to us that guys will still find us sexy even though we have a little extra love in our love handles, and we’ll figure out that little mistakes won’t make or break our careers. A woman who goes through life knowing that she’s awesome won’t need to do much convincing to make other people see the same thing.
  4. We get our act together. When we’re young and still figuring out the world around us, we might rely more on our parents or significant others to help us get better at “adulting.” But as we make more trips around the sun, we somehow manage to get it all under control. Eventually, the things that once intimidated us like asking for raises or maintaining a household won’t even be an issue. A woman who can run her own life will practically steam with sex appeal.
  5. We learn to juggle a million things at once. Our younger selves might have balked at the idea of managing a career, hobbies, and a family, but once we get older, it’s just part of life. After a certain amount of time, handling everything life throws at us becomes routine, and that includes being super sexy.
  6. We start doing things just because they make us happy. Who cares what other people think? After spending way too much time trying to please others at the expense of our own happiness, we eventually realize that our own satisfaction should move up to the front seat. Guys might think it’s sweet when a woman goes out of her way to make other people smile, but they go crazy for one who makes her own smile a priority, too.
  7. We stop sweating the small stuff. There’s something about a 1/3-life or mid-life crisis that makes us realize what matters and what doesn’t. A woman who has a few years under her belt isn’t going to spend all night freaking out about something that doesn’t matter. She’ll know when something is ACTUALLY an emergency, and if it is, she’ll be able to keep her cool and handle it like the boss she is. Isn’t that so much sexier than a young girl who panics over whether or not her crush liked her selfie?
  8. We get our priorities in order. The days of spending family time wishing you were actually on a date with the guy you’ve been talking to for a week tend to disappear as you get older. After you’ve experienced some truly harrowing stuff, you grow up quickly and realize what truly matters in life. Immature guys might go for women who make them the most important person in their lives, but grown men will fall for the ladies who don’t compromise on the people and things that are important to them.
  9. We’ve been there, done that. Not much can faze a woman who’s lived a few decades. Experience — whether at work, in bed, or elsewhere — is unquestionably sexy, and women just get more of it as we age. Sure, we all have to make a few mistakes to get to that point, but once we do, we’ll be hotter than we’ve ever been before.
  10. We know how to run the show. Being innocent and demure might work for younger women, but once you’ve done a good bit of living, your ability to take control is what will turn heads and break hearts. The leadership we develop over the years will shine through at work, in social settings, and in the bedroom, and you can bet that it gets people to notice us way more than they did before.
Averi is a word nerd and Brazilian jiu jitsu brown belt. She's also a TEFL/TESOL-certified ESL teacher and an equine enthusiast. Originally from Pennsylvania, she lived in Costa Rica for a while before moving to Australia. In addition to her work as a writer and editor for Bolde, she also has bylines with Little Things and regularly writes for Jiu-Jitsu Times.

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