10 Reasons Women Stay In Relationships With Men They Don’t Like

There’s nothing worse than when you fall in love with someone while overlooking red flags galore. A few years later, you find yourself looking across the dinner table at someone you can’t stand. For many women, that isn’t enough to leave a relationship. They need more than just resentment to get up and walk away from a good guy. So, why do women stay in relationships with men they don’t even like?

  1. They want to make things work. Perhaps it’s ingrained in women through centuries of being forced to deal with situations they don’t like, but for whatever reason, they always think we can fix bad things whether it’s a bad man, a horrible job, or an unhappy relationship. There’s always a solution to a problem before walking away from it entirely.
  2. Financial stability is important. It’s tough out there on one income. Even two incomes can hardly pay for the finer things in life these days. If a woman is accustomed to a certain lifestyle and meets a man that can help provide that, she might use it as an excuse to stay in an unhappy relationship.
  3. They need good reasons to make big choices. Some women think about everything. Constantly. They are always running through the options, considering all sides, thinking about every single repercussion to every single action they take. Leaving a relationship is a huge decision and there are so many factors to consider. Many women want good reasons before making such big leaps.
  4. They have all the material things they want. Some women can be incredibly materialistic and want guys that can shower them with gifts and fly them off to luxurious places. When they have that, they end up being pretty reluctant to leave that kind of situation behind.
  5. They can’t have who they really want. If a woman wants someone that she can’t have because they don’t feel the same, are already with the love of their life, or is just unable to be in a relationship, they’ll choose someone else. Some women have many suitors most of the time and if they can’t have who they really want then it’s likely that anyone will do.
  6. They have kids together. Staying together for the kids isn’t just a woman thing, but it is a pretty good reason for them to stay in an unhappy relationship. It’s one of those aforementioned excuses they make to stay.
  7. Dating is scary. When men go to meet a blind date, they’re probably not considering the chance that they may not make it home. Women learn from a very young age that they have to be careful when meeting men alone at night. Perhaps it’s unfair to most men think that way, but at least they know the guy they’re with isn’t going to pull a Ted Bundy them.
  8. There is a lot of garbage in the sea. Aside from the very real albeit unlikely risk of being murdered, a lot of people out there are just horrible. People are moving further and further away from decency and when a woman is with a guy she knows is good, she’ll stay even if he’s not the one she really wants.
  9. Their internal clock is ticking and they want children. If a woman really wants kids and she’s pushing a certain age, she’ll stay in a relationship with someone for that reason. Men have the luxury of waiting it out for the right one, but a woman doesn’t if she wants to carry her own child.
  10. They have no one else. Many women get into relationships and their social circle dwindles down to their spouse’s friends and friends’ girlfriends. When a breakup is on the horizon, they envision their lives without all those people and realize that their entire life could crumble to the ground without the man they’re with.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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