Whether you’re dating, in a serious relationship, or he doesn’t even know you exist yet, it’s natural to want to boost that special guy’s attraction to you. You might think you need to pull out all the stops to have him falling all over himself to get close to you but you couldn’t be more wrong. Here’s what you should do.
Look your best.
I’m not talking about wearing the latest fashions, super-tight sexy clothes, or even being dressed up when he sees you. I’m talking about looking your personal best. Dress the way that suits you best and makes you feel most confident. Whether that’s a little black dress or jeans and a t-shirt, it doesn’t matter. As long as it makes you feel like your kickass, confident self, then it’s the right thing. Washing your hair and plucking those stray eyebrow hairs won’t hurt either.
Show your passion.
People who are passionate about something are instantly attractive. Let him see you in your element. Talk about your love of art or the political campaign you’re working on. Let him see the real you and show him how passionate you are about your cause. Stop short of becoming preachy or pedantic but don’t shy away from being vocal about what you love.
Make friends with his friends.
Let’s be honest, if a guy’s friends like you, you’ve got an instant in. Plus, it may even engage a little competitiveness in him. If they adore you, he’s sure to adore you too. Obviously you don’t want to be creepy or force yourself into the group too soon, but when there’s an opportunity to chill with them and show them how awesome you are, take it!
Let him be the real him.
Listen intently when he talks about what he loves and ask him questions. If he lets you in and shares something deep with you, make sure you appreciate what he’s telling you. Truly listen and even echo back to him what he’s saying for clarification. Make him feel heard. Most people feel drawn to people who they feel like really understand them, so make an effort to do that and it will pay off big time.
Flirt with him!
You’re not going to make a guy adore you if you don’t at least attempt to flirt with him a little bit. Show a little skin (not too much, unless that’s how you’re most comfortable), lean into him, touch his arm, laugh at his jokes. Make eye contact, smile, and let him know you’re into him with your body language. Just don’t go overboard or you’ll end up looking desperate and turn him off.
You know the saying “you always want what you can’t have”? Well, it applies to attraction too. If you’re busy and not always available, it makes you look more desirable. Now, don’t make up fake plans or take hours to respond to his texts because you want to seem busy. That’s just playing games, and most guys will see right through it. Instead, actually be busy. Make plans with your friends, go to the gym, take a class. Clean out your junk drawer, organize your DVD collection alphabetically, or line up your nail polishes by colors of the rainbow. Just do something!
Be fulfilled and happy.
Or at least be working towards it. If you’re in a good place in your life, you’re more attractive than when you’re not. Make sure that you’re constantly working on you. Whether that’s mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, or all of the above. Just keep moving forward towards fulfillment. If you’re religious or spiritual, make sure you’re acting in a way that’s in alignment with your beliefs. If you’re struggling emotionally, now may be time to start seeing a therapist and work through your past traumas. If you’re uncomfortable in your body, join a gym or take a class on how to cook healthier meals. Whatever you do, do it for yourself. When you’re in a good place, the person you’re trying to attract will see that and want to be around you more.
Love on his pet.
If Fido loves you, he’s likely to love you too. So connect with Mr. Fluffy or Ms. Fluffy and bring him or her some treats to show that you care. Spend some time connecting with his pet and I’ll bet his adoration of you will grow exponentially.
Connect with him.
Connect with him on a deeply personal level and you’re golden. This doesn’t have to be about things you have in common but it does help. Whether it’s shared interests, a shared belief, or similar upbringings, use it to your advantage and bond with him over it. If he shares his deeper feelings with you, it’s definitely working!
Don’t bother trying.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put effort into the relationship, just that you shouldn’t be too preoccupied with trying to make him fall for you. Just being yourself and enjoying every moment as it comes should be enough, and if it’s not, he’s not the one for you.
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