11 Things Guys Do That Prove They’re The “Crazy” Ones

The most frustrating thing about dating these days is being called crazy by dudes for having totally normal reactions to the messed up stuff they do. The truth is that while we all have our moments, we generally know how to behave when dealing with the opposite sex. In fact, we’re really not the crazy ones when we really think about it — especially when guys do these things all the time.

  1. They text us 24/7 and then ignore us for days. We’ve all had the annoying experience of dating a new guy, having him text us all the time, and then having our phones go totally silent. We scratch our heads, wondering what’s going on, and then we realize that we’re being totally ignored. Unfortunately, this happens way too often.
  2. They complain about getting ghosted and then ghost us. A lot of guys act like they get ghosted by every girl that they date. They can’t stand the idea that everyone doesn’t want to go out with them. These are the guys that end up ghosting us because they’re cowards and hypocrites. It’s not much fun.
  3. They say they want a relationship and then freak out when we do too. We should raise our hands if we’ve had a guy tell us that he’s looking for something serious… and then go crazy when it seems like we’re approaching a real relationship. Whether this is immaturity or fear is unclear, but it’s definitely pretty out-there behavior. Things would be so much better if guys would slow down and allow things to develop naturally instead of acting like they’re into us and then bailing.
  4. They act like we’re the ones moving everything forward. Sure, we have no problem making the first move or texting first or making our interest known. We do, however, have a problem with guys who pursue us and then tell us that they never really showed that they were romantically interested. We’re the ones moving things forward. We’re the ones that really like them. Sigh.
  5. They believe that every relationship is like a prison. It’s pretty nuts to think that relationships are all horrible. Yes, some are bad, but that’s because those two people are poorly matched and need to break up ASAP. Guys definitely need to stop believing that they can’t possibly have a girlfriend because it would ruin their entire lives.
  6. They talk about the future when it’s only been a few dates. While we have the reputation of hearing wedding bells on the first date, guys are sometimes the ones who see way too far into the future. A lot of guys will mention going to a movie with us (when the movie won’t come out for another two months) or bringing us to a friend’s birthday (when that’s not happening for several weeks). And yet we’re the crazy ones. Super confusing.
  7. They say they’re “too busy” to date us. According to some guys, they are the only ones who have full-time jobs, friends, family, and hobbies. They can’t possibly date. There’s just no room for romance in their lives. It’s a total lie and it’s also completely crazy. If we want to do something, we make time for it, and guys should think about this the same way.
  8. They mansplain. One of the craziest things that guys do is tell us something that we already know. And when they say it in a super condescending tone, that’s the definition of mansplaining. If guys are going to do this, they can’t possibly call us nuts. They are clearly the nuts ones since they seem to think that this behavior is okay.
  9. They take forever to reply to a simple text message. Come on, it’s not rocket science. We can reply to our texts in a timely manner and the guys that we’re dating can do the same thing. We’re pretty sick of guys acting like they are too busy or too important or too awesome to answer us right away. It’s not like we’re the only ones who are obsessed with our phones.
  10. They act super clingy. While we get called the clingy gender all the time, that’s not really the case. Guys can be so much clingier than we would ever dream of being. It’s pretty awful that we keep getting called clingy when we are totally fine with living our own lives and taking care of ourselves. If this could stop, that would be great.
  11. They treat us like crap so we will dump them. This is one of the most common things that guys do… and it’s the worst. We will never understand why guys won’t just break up with us. If our relationship isn’t working, then that’s okay. It’s going to be for the best. It’s not right for them to ignore us and insult us when they should be delivering the breakup speech. Until guys stop with all of this crappy behavior, they are absolutely the crazy ones.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.