11 Things Someone Won’t Do If They’re Worth Your Time

No one is perfect, but if you’re in a relationship with someone, romantic or otherwise, there are certain behaviors that just shouldn’t be tolerated. Sometimes it’s good to remind yourself of the fact that people who really care about you won’t make you doubt if they really do. Not only that, but they definitely won’t do these 11 things.

  1. Leave your texts on “read” Seriously, what does it take to reply to a message?! You should only talk to people who are as excited to speak to you as you are to speak to them. Enough with staring at those messages and waiting for a reply.
  2. Ignore what you say If you mentioned that you suffer from migraines and the person conveniently forgets when you say you’re not well, or you say that you can’t go out tonight because you’re busy and they show up anyway, that’s a guaranteed way to make you see that they’re self-absorbed and not really focused on you at all.
  3. Avoid you when you ask personal questions Getting closer to someone means you break down your walls and open up a bit more, hoping that they’ll do the same thing. But if the person retreats when you try to get closer to them by asking them where they were on Saturday night or what their ex was like, then it’s like they’re shutting you out of their life. After a while of dating, this can prove that the person doesn’t want to progress.
  4. Make things all about them. If they really care, they won’t try to lead the relationship all the time, like by making date activities all about the interests or hobbies they want to participate in. They’ll think about you and what you want sometimes because spending time with you matters more than whatever they wanted to do.
  5. Deprioritize your happiness¬†No one can make you happy – you have to do that for yourself. Still, that doesn’t mean the person you’re dating shouldn’t be making your happiness a priority. If they don’t care about whether you’re happy or not with them and make an effort to make you feel good, that’s a sign that they shouldn’t be in your life.
  6. Say “thanks” when you say “I love you” Exchanging those three little words is a big deal, but after the first time, it should still be something that you feel good about saying. If the person you’re dating never says “I love you” back or just thanks you for loving them, it’s clear that something’s wrong. Hey, if they can’t say it, how do you really know that they’re feeling it?
  7. Constantly run late If someone can’t be punctual, it’s a sign of disrespect. Sure, everyone runs late once in a while, but if the person you’re dating makes a habit of turning up whenever they feel like it and making your dates feel like an afterthought, they’re not worth a second of your time spent waiting for them.
  8. Neglect to go the extra mile You’re the one who calls them when they’re sick to ensure they’re okay. You’re the one who reminds them about your date this weekend. You’re the ones who remember when they’ve got that big work presentation the next day. Do they do the same in return? No.
  9. Criticize your choices Just because their choices are different, they think theirs are better. Over time, this kind of behavior can really make you feel attacked. It’s not on, and it’s not only a sign the person’s not worth your time but that you have lifestyles and values that aren’t going to play well with each other. It doesn’t bode well for the future of your relationship.
  10. Keep pictures of their ex on social media Their relationship ended six months ago but they’ve still got cozy couple selfies on their FB. That’s troubling, especially if they refuse to take them down or put pictures of the two of you together on their profiles. What are they hiding? Are they still not over the past?
  11. Make you feel bad for feeling bad When you’re emotional and stressed out, instead of giving you support, which is what they should be doing, they tell you to stop being so sensitive or such a drama queen. This kind of behavior can cause you to want to hide your feelings from your partner to avoid being criticized so much. Ugh.


Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.