11 Things That Just Aren’t Important As You Think They Are In Life

11 Things That Just Aren’t Important As You Think They Are In Life

It’s easy to get caught up in the race for what we think will make us happy or look successful to everyone else. But sometimes, we give too much weight to certain aspects of life that, in the grand scheme of things, aren’t as crucial as we think. If these things are important in your life, it may be time to reassess.

1. Collecting material things

The pursuit of material possessions – the latest gadgets, fancy cars, or designer clothes – often seems like a key to happiness. However, the satisfaction they bring is usually fleeting. These items can quickly lose their luster, leading to a continuous cycle of wanting more. Focusing instead on experiences and relationships can bring longer-lasting fulfillment. It’s experiences and connections with people that we remember and cherish, not the things we own.

2. Being Right All the Time

The desire to always be right can lead to endless arguments and strained relationships. It’s important to remember that being right isn’t the same as being happy. Sometimes, letting go of the need to win an argument can bring peace and improve relationships. It’s okay to have different viewpoints, and admitting you don’t have all the answers or acknowledging another perspective can be incredibly freeing and can lead to deeper understanding and respect.

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4. Having a Perfect Social Media Image

Social media can make it seem like everyone else has a perfect life, but remember, it’s usually a curated highlight reel. Obsessing over crafting a flawless online image can lead to anxiety and a disconnection from your authentic self. It’s healthier to focus on living your real life and making genuine connections. Your worth isn’t measured by likes, followers, or the perfection of your online presence.

5. Waiting for the Perfect Moment

Many people wait for the perfect moment to start a new venture, pursue a hobby, or make a significant change. However, waiting for perfect timing often means missing out on opportunities. Life is unpredictable, and the perfect moment might never come. It’s better to make the most of the present and adjust along the way. Start where you are, use what you have, and do what you can.

6. Constantly Worrying About What Others Think

While it’s natural to consider how your actions affect others, constantly worrying about what people think can be paralyzing. It can prevent you from making decisions that are right for you and living a life true to yourself. Most people are too busy with their own lives to focus extensively on yours. It’s more productive to concentrate on your values and beliefs, and live a life that aligns with them.

7. Achieving a Perfect Work-Life Balance

The concept of a perfect work-life balance is often glorified, but in reality, it’s hard to achieve. Life is full of ebbs and flows, and sometimes one area will need more attention than another. Instead of striving for a perfect balance, aim for a realistic and flexible approach. Focus on managing your time and energy in a way that doesn’t burn you out and allows you to enjoy both work and personal life.

8. Having a Flawless Appearance

Society often emphasizes the importance of looking a certain way, but obsessing over appearance can lead to low self-esteem and unrealistic expectations. It’s important to remember that beauty is subjective and comes in many forms. Focusing on being healthy, feeling good in your own skin, and expressing your unique style is far more important than fitting a particular beauty standard.

9. The Need to Have a Plan for Everything

While planning is important, being rigid about every aspect of your life can lead to stress and disappointment when things don’t go as expected. Life is unpredictable, and sometimes the best experiences come from unexpected opportunities. Learn to be flexible and adaptable. Embrace spontaneity sometimes, as it can lead to exciting experiences and growth.

10. Holding onto Grudges and Past Mistakes

Holding onto grudges and ruminating over past mistakes can take a toll on your mental and emotional well-being. Forgiving others and yourself can lead to peace and personal growth. Understand that everyone makes mistakes, and they’re a part of learning and evolving. Letting go of negative feelings can free you up to experience more positive and fulfilling aspects of life.

11. Constantly Striving for Perfection

The pursuit of perfection in everything you do can lead to a lot of stress and disappointment. Whether it’s in your job, your home life, or your personal projects, trying to achieve flawlessness is an unrealistic goal. Perfection is an illusion and often unattainable. Embracing imperfection, on the other hand, can bring a sense of relief and authenticity to your life. It allows you to appreciate your efforts and progress, no matter how imperfect they may be. Remember, it’s through our imperfections that we often find growth, creativity, and genuine connections with others.

12. Prioritizing Quantity Over Quality in Relationships

In a world where social media often measures relationships by quantity, it’s easy to think that having a large number of acquaintances or online friends is important. However, the number of connections you have is far less significant than the quality of those relationships. Deep, meaningful relationships where you can be yourself and feel supported are much more fulfilling than numerous superficial connections. Focusing on cultivating a few close, genuine relationships can lead to greater emotional satisfaction and a stronger sense of belonging. It’s about the depth of your bonds, not the number of people in your social circle.

Sinead Cafferty is a writer who has authored four collections of poetry: "Dust Settling" (2012); "The Space Between" (2014); "Under, Under, Over" (2016); and "What You Can't Have" (2020). She's currently working on her first novel, a dystopian romance set in the 22nd Century, that's due out in 2024.

Sinead has an MFA in creative writing from NYU and has had residencies with the Vermont Studio Center and the National Center for Writing.