It’s too easy to fall into the trap of thinking and obsessing about what other people think of you. Maybe you worry about what people think about your appearance or you wonder if they really like your unique personality. The thing is, being too concerned about others’ opinions can make you start living life according to their rules, which sucks. It’s time to turn the spotlight back onto you and what you want, like, and feel! Here are 13 signs you’ve stopped caring what other people think of you and are on the right track.
1. You’re Not Glued To The Mirror Before A Date.
It’s awesome to care about your hair, makeup, and clothes if dressing up and looking glam makes you feel good. It’s not cool if you’re spending hours on your appearance because you’re hoping to impress the person you’re going on a date with. See, it’s about you, not them. Feeling confident about your looks and who you are means you can walk right past the entryway mirror in your home when going out without stressing about your appearance and feeling low. Or, maybe you choose to go makeup-free because it makes you feel confident. Awesome.
2. You Can Laugh Off People’s Digs.
Some people love to have little jabs at you whenever they get a chance, and it can make you feel depressed. But, if you don’t care about what people think, you can laugh off whatever they try to throw at you because you know the truth about yourself. It’s so empowering! And, they’ll probably be taken aback by your laughter, which is even more awesome.
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4. You Don’t Take On Fake Traits.
You know those conversations that go something like, “OMG, you love watching Star Wars? Me too!” While having similar interests can help you bond with others, if you’re faking what you like to get into others’ good books, it’s not cool. Why not just like what you like? If you no longer care about what others think of you, you’ll be real about the things you like and dislike so you don’t have to sit through activities you hate.
5. You Don’t Pick Through Previous Conversations.
When you get home after meeting someone new, do you busy yourself with other things or do you sit and analyze your conversations to death, perhaps kicking yourself about certain things you said? Ugh, it’s so draining! When you stop caring so much about impressing others or trying to make them like you, your mind will be chilled so you don’t obsess and waste your energy.
6. You Stick With People You Care About.
Instead of spending time with people just ’cause they’re cool or everyone loves them, you’d rather kick back with people you actually care about. Not only does this prevent you from working hard to impress others (ugh), but you can rest assured that you’re loved by who you surround yourself with. That’s what it should be about, and you can have a belly laugh without feeling judged.
7. You Laugh At Your So-Called Flaws.
You know you’ve reached a new level of growth when you can laugh about what you consider to be your flaws, whether physically or emotionally. When you do this, you don’t give people power over your insecurities. And, you laugh about your “flaws” because you know that your imperfections make you more beautiful, inside and out.
8. You Spend More Time Offline Than Online.
If you’re spending hours at a time on social networking sites, you know how they can be draining and toxic because you end up feeling bad with all the comparing of yourself to others. It’s such a waste of data and mental chill. When you can leave your device behind and enjoy time outside or with friends in RL, it takes the pressure off you completely. You stop creating stories in your head about why you’re not worthy and you don’t base your confidence on how many “likes” you get.
9. You Don’t Bite Your Tongue.
Do you feel like you have to stop yourself from being honest about what you think or feel, such as when dating someone new, because you’re so afraid to disappoint them? Nope! When you’re confident about your thoughts and feelings, you feel comfortable sharing them, as you should. Nothing worse than walking through the world feeling like you’re not worthy or trying to be a carbon copy of someone else.
10. You Don’t Lie In Online Dating Profiles.
Hey, let’s be real: it’s sometimes tempting to mask the truth a little when signing up for dating profiles. But, when you can be honest about who you are, what you’re looking for in a romantic partner, and what you enjoy doing in your spare time, you drop the facade. It feels good, but it also ensures you don’t waste your time with people who are attracted to the fake you (oh, and you don’t kittenfish others, which is never a good idea).
11. You Say No Without A Hitch.
Sometimes, it’s hard to say “no” when a friend asks you for a last-minute favor or your BF wants you to meet his parents but you’re not ready yet. When you stop fearing others’ judgments, you can say “no” without lashes of guilt or fear of rejection. You say “no” truthfully and kindly, but you stick to your guns so that you don’t do anything that doesn’t feel 100 percent right for you. That’s how it should be.
12. You’re Not Forcing Smiles.
You know the achy feeling in your cheeks when you’re forcing a smile? It’s annoying. Sometimes, you might feel like you have to smile and look happy because you don’t want other people to think you’re being mean or uptight, like the guy dishing out grandpa-style jokes that are corny. Right. When you stop caring so much about what others think, you don’t force yourself to look happy if you’re not. And why should you?
13. You Don’t Care How “Weird” You Might Look.
You and your friends are at the beach. Do you jump into the water, not caring how silly you might look, or do you stay on the sand? When you’re meeting someone new, do you savor your pizza, or take two small bites and leave the rest? When you don’t care what others think, you can fully immerse yourself in the moment and enjoy every second of it without letting it pass you by.
14. You Take Or Leave Feedback.
How do you deal with feedback from others? Do you fly off the handle and freak out or feel like a loser, or do you realize that you can take it or leave it but it doesn’t define you? If the latter applies to you, you’re rising above what other people think of you because you know it just doesn’t matter. What you think about yourself is what counts.