You’re an incredible woman with a lot to offer the world and a potential boyfriend, so the last thing you want is a guy who’s just going to drag you down. A low-value man doesn’t refer to his value as a human, but rather his value as a partner. How is he contributing to your partnership? Is he giving enough or is he taking too much? If you notice any of these signs, he’s really not worth your time.
- He criticizes you and everyone else. His insecurities are glaring when he’s quick to judge you and everyone around you both. He makes fun of the guy at the mall and he tells you that you’re not doing good enough. Perhaps he criticizes the way that you work. These sorts of actions just make it abundantly clear that he’s wildly unsure of himself.
- He’s emotionally closed off. He shuts down when any talk of feelings comes up. It seems he only has two emotions: joy and anger. There aren’t shades of feeling because he’s all stuffed up. It may be a result of being hurt in the past, but it doesn’t mean you should have to deal with it. It’s very unfair to have one party be open while the other is closed off.
- He tries to control you in subtle or obvious ways. He has something to say about anything from who you hang out with to what you wear when you’re going out. He’s clearly wildly insecure otherwise he’d let you do your thing without thinking he’s in danger. The way that he tries to manipulate how you live your life is totally unfair and you don’t need that BS. You’re your own woman.
- He refuses to compromise. A relationship is all about compromise. You give and take, sometimes one person gets what they want and sometimes the other does. Or, both do in some way. Your dude, though, isn’t willing to compromise. He refuses to budge on his side and just expects you to meet him all the way. He doesn’t know how to go halfway.
- He’s stubborn. When he thinks that he’s right he won’t move. He’ll insist that you’re wrong and he’ll stick to his guns no matter what. It may even become clear that he’s wrong and he’d still stick to what he believes because that’s how stubborn he is. Stubbornness can be cute in small doses, but in the large dose that comes with this dude, it’s not cute at all.
- He thinks you owe him sex. Maybe one of the grossest warning signs that he’s a low-value man is that he expects you to have sex with him. He believes you owe it to him because you’re in a relationship. Yuck! He’s actually repulsive. You don’t owe him anything and you’re entitled to sleep with him when you want or not sleep with him at all.
- He doesn’t get along with your friends or family. A huge warning sign that he isn’t to be messed with is that your friends and family dislike him because they don’t get along. Sometimes it’s OK to have a friend or two dislike your boyfriend, but when the votes are unanimous that’s saying something. Pay attention when your closest pals tell you that he’s trouble because they’re probably right.
- He doesn’t have any time for you. If you’re important enough in his life he’ll make time for you. Easy peasy, right? Well, if you have a guy who happens to be busy all of the time, you’ve got a problem. He doesn’t leave room for you two to hang out, so you’re stuck seeing each other far less than you’d like. This is crap, you deserve to be with someone who wants to see you on a regular basis.
- He’s overly jealous. We’ve all seen those men who totally lose their cool as a result of burning jealousy. If you’ve got one of these on your hands, it’s no good. He doesn’t want you to have male friends because he thinks something is going to happen and he’s even jealous of your coworkers. Nothing you do is right because he’s so insecure that he’s jealous of just about everyone.
- He’s unpredictable. He reacts in unpredictable ways in that he may be happy one moment and raging the next. He also responds to the same situation in different ways such as you showing up late. One time he might be cool and another time he might be totally mad. He’s essentially emotionally unstable and you feel as if you’re walking on eggshells around him. This is no way to be in a relationship.
- He disappoints you. You regularly find yourself disappointed as a result of something he did or didn’t do. Maybe he cancels plans for the millionth time or he forgets your anniversary. Whatever it is, he manages to let you down often. You don’t deserve this—you deserve someone who’ll make you happy.
