17 Signs That A Guy Has Serious Insecurity Issues

A lot of men would make great partners if it wasn’t for the fact that they’re crazily insecure about themselves, which can be a major dealbreaker. If you’re dating a guy who’s exhibiting any of these warning signs, it may be best to just stay friends.

He has to have his friends deal with girls for him. If he relies on friends to communicate that he really likes you, to try to set up dates for him, or to reject advances, he’s not a man — he’s a scared little boy trapped in a man’s body. If he’s too insecure to deal with even the most basic of dating skills, good luck trying to get him to address more serious problems.

He (seriously) asks you why you like him on a regular basis. A normal guy doesn’t doubt when a girl likes him. A normal guy, even if he’s ugly as sin, won’t assume that a woman is lying about her interest in him. If he’s insecure to that point, he won’t be able to believe much of anything you tell him.

He talks about the size of his penis… a lot. Look, all men get insecure about their junk — I’ve even known men who were the size of a person’s forearm who asked if it was big — but if that’s literally all he talks about, he’s sexually insecure to the point that it won’t be enjoyable for you.

He brags about his conquests regularly, and boasts about how freaky “those girls” are. First off, that is GROSS behavior. Secondly, why would you want to sleep with a guy who would say that kind of stuff? Thirdly, he’s probably lying.

He asks you to write long-ass messages about how much you love him. Essays are not a good sign.

You get the distinct feeling that he’s overcompensating for something. It could be the massive truck. It could be the fact that he’s always showing off his career achievements It could be the fact that his muscles make him look like a tick about to pop. Somehow, you get the feeling that he’s really desperate for women to notice him.

He can’t stand to be alone. Not a good sign. This indicates that he’s likely to have codependent relationships, and that’s not good for you, either.

No matter what you do, you can’t get him to talk to you about anything. This is a sign of a man who’s too insecure to actually grow a pair and talk to women like a normal human being. Simply put, you can’t have a relationship with a guy who expects you to be psychic.

He’s controlling. A man who’s too insecure to let his girlfriend have her own life that doesn’t include him is a man who you should never date. This is a key indicator that he’s going to be abusive.

He’s unnaturally sunny. Be careful of a man who has too cheerful a disposition, because chances are that he’s hiding his insecurity behind jokes and a plastered-on grin. This can lead to problems with communication, and it can also lead to him behaving really unpredictably… which is never good if you want a stable relationship.

You get the feeling that he has body issues or an eating disorder. It’s borderline impossible to have a normal sex life when you have body issues that are that bad. If sex always has to be done with a blindfold on, he refuses to eat anything around you, or he never wants to get naked, chances are that he’s got major body image issues. No amount of complimenting will make him feel better about it, and trust me, sex will suffer in quality and quantity.

He has a need to be the “Alpha Male.” If his idea of a good time is making a girl scramble for his attention, wrecking her self-esteem, always having the last word, or doing what he can to just “be Alpha as hell,” he’s got insecurity issues. Unless you want to have a nervous breakdown because of this guy’s mind games, you’re better off running.

Most girls would describe him as “creepy.” He doesn’t acknowledge boundaries. He says creepy things. He makes creepy jokes. He stares at girls. This kind of behavior is actually a very aggressive way of showing desperation. Don’t reward it. Walk away, and keep away from him.

He regularly talks crap about anyone who’s doing better than him. If you see a man who constantly puts others down, you can always bet that he’s insecure about himself. If he has no problem tearing strangers down, what makes you think he won’t do it to you?

He flashes cash and status… a lot. This is a sign that he thinks that’s all he has to offer. Yikes.

If he finds out you’ve slept with more people than he has, he flips out. This also applies to men who freak out when they find out girls earn more than they do.  It’s 2016. Why does this still happen so frequently?

He’s a sore loser. If he can’t handle rejection without a tantrum, he’s insecure. And, he’s desperate. And, he needs to work on himself before you even think that you should give him a chance.

Bolde is giving away $1000! We’ll soon be launching a new FREE app that will help you identify and break your bad dating habits, feel more secure and confident when it come to dating, avoid the douchebags and fuckboys, and find love faster! Check it out and you could win big! What do you have to lose? Click here to learn more.

Read more:

Share this article now!

Jump to the comments