It seems like he’s head over heels for you but there’s something that just feels slightly off and you can’t help but feel like he’s not as all-in on you as he claims to be. It’s a scary thought that the guy you’re totally nuts about could be faking his feelings for you. Is he lying? Here are 12 red flags he’s not the guy you thought he was.
- He’s mirroring you too much. When you chat with him, do you feel like he copies your body language? Mirroring is when your body language matches that of your partner and it happens naturally. It signals that you’ve got chemistry. If it feels like the guy’s always noting your body language and tweaking his to match yours, he might be trying too hard to forge that connection.
- He tells you you’re number one, but…Â While he might say that you’re his main priority, if his actions don’t match his words then those are what you should be concentrating on. It’s no good to be told that you’re loved and his number one when he’s never around when you need him.
- He’s a better boyfriend in public. When his friends or family members are around, does he seem to treat you with more love and care than when you’re alone? It’s clear that he cares more about the image of your relationship than what it’s really like.
- He’s tagging you on social media daily. While it’s great to feel that your boyfriend is proud of you and wants to show off how gorgeous you are or how happy you both are by posting your images on social media, you don’t want to feel that he’s putting too much attention online and not focusing on your relationship in real life.
- He surprises you. And not in a good way! You might discover things about your partner that you didn’t even know, such as that they love mountain biking or aren’t completely against the idea of an open marriage. When this happens, you might feel like your partner’s hiding a huge chunk of himself from you, and it’s not a good feeling.
- He never steps into the ring. When you and your boyfriend have an argument, do you feel like you’re always the one who has to apologize or try to resolve your dating issues, meanwhile he’s not the type to do this? It’s like he doesn’t want to resolve problems or make the relationship better, which tells you that he’s not really committed to the relationship.
- He never stops and thinks about the future. When you try to dream about your future with your partner, he might shut you down or be pretty vague about it. This is alarming because you might feel like you’re in a dead-end relationship with no future prospects.
- He never talks about the real stuff. While you guys can talk about light topics ad nauseam, he never actually wants to get deep when it comes to real, serious issues. This is problematic ’cause you might feel like he’s just with you for the good times.
- He’s quick to hit the eject button. When the going gets tough, he’s quick to want to exit the relationship. He might threaten to end things and walk away. This doesn’t feel like he’s in the relationship for the long haul, and he’s clearly not.
- He’s the best boyfriend in the bedroom. Does it feel like your sex life is fantastic but your relationship doesn’t quite match up? It could be because he’s mainly focused on having amazing sex with you instead of building a real future with you that thrives inside and outside of the sack.
- He’s always muddling up his words. When you talk about your relationship or relationships in general, your boyfriend doesn’t really give you clear, concise words. He might waffle, get tongue-tied, or contradict himself so that by the end of the conversation it feels like you’re confused. If this is what’s happening, then the guy is being dodgy.
- He’s not chasing you. If your boyfriend pulled out all the stops to chase you and make you his, now that you’re together does it feel like he’s not that keen on keeping you around? He might seem lazy, like he’s not really putting in lots of effort or he’s making you do all the work. The guy is coasting, and that could be because he’s not invested in the relationship.
