13 Things No Woman Should Ever Be Ashamed To Say Out Loud

13 Things No Woman Should Ever Be Ashamed To Say Out Loud ©iStock/ozgurdonmaz

When we’re young we tend to keep our thoughts to ourselves. We do things that maybe we’re not down with, because we’re too afraid to say “no, thanks,” or we just can’t admit when we’re wrong. It takes a strong woman to be able to speak her mind and not succumb to the warped societal idea that women shouldn’t be outspoken.

But because society is often wrong, especially when it comes to women, here are 13 things no woman should ever be ashamed of expressing. You have opinions and thoughts for a reason, so don’t ever be afraid to say them out loud.

  1. “I screwed up.” It takes one hell of an individual to admit that they’re wrong. It means sticking your pride somewhere out of reach and just coming clean.
  2. “I’m sorry.” Similarly to admitting you screwed up, following that up with an apology can be just as hard. But it’s also something you shouldn’t be ashamed to do.
  3. “Actually, it is you and not me.” Because you know what? Despite the standard break-up line of “it’s not you, it’s me,” sometimes the truth is that it IS them, and they should know it.”
  4. “I love you.” Even if you’re the first one to say it in a relationship, you should never be ashamed of your feelings.
  5. “I’m awesome.” Being able to not just look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re fantastic, but also tell those around you this fact, is something you should embrace to the core.”
  6. “I deserve more than this.” It’s really hard to admit that you deserve better — whether it’s in your job, your relationship, or your friendships, but it’s also something that when you realize it, you have to say it.
  7. “I think you’re wrong.” True story: People can be wrong. Granted, most people don’t realize it, so it’s probably in your best interest to point it out to them, especially if that person is going down a road of racism, homophobia, or sexism. That crap is wrong.
  8. “No, thanks.” Whether it’s drugs or a one-night stand proposing butt sex, you should never be ashamed to shut peer pressure down.
  9. “I didn’t have an orgasm.” You know you’ve finally arrived at adulthood when you stop faking it and can look your partner in the eye and tell them that actually you didn’t come, and maybe they should try harder.
  10. “I don’t like you.” From that douchebag coworker, to the friend who continues to disappoint you, or the family member who won’t stop asking you why you’re single — don’t be scared to tell them that, frankly, you just don’t like them.
  11. “I’m angry.” People get angry, and keeping it to yourself is doing a disservice to everyone involved ― especially you.
  12. “I do not forgive you.” Some people do not deserve our forgiveness. While forgiving someone does show strength of character, being able to tell someone that you don’t forgive them is a whole other thing and takes an equal amount of strength.
  13. “I’m proud of myself.” Never, ever be ashamed to relish in the fact that you did not just good, but great and you’re proud of what you’ve accomplished.
Amanda Chatel is a sexual health, mental health, and wellness journalist with more than a decade of experience. Her work has been featured in Shape, Glamour, SELF, Harper's Bazaar, The Atlantic, Forbes, Elle, Mic, Men's Health and Bustle, where she was a lifestyle writer for seven years. In 2019, The League included Amanda in their "15 Inspirational Feminists Every Single Person Should Follow on Twitter" list.

Amanda has a bachelor's degree in English and master's degree in Creative Writing from the University of New Hampshire. She divides her time between NYC, Paris, and Barcelona.

You can follow her on Instagram @la_chatel or on Twitter @angrychatel.